dcs holidays with ex h

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How do you arrange when dcs can go on holidays with their dad if you aren’t together?Do you both suggest dates and then arrange when’s suitable or are you just told the dates and expected to agree?:( any advice appreciated,thank you

We agree in advance how school holidays will be split (50/50 In holidays but actual split varies) and then are free to make whatever arrangements we want during that time.

I’d just tell XH and he wouldn’t see them on the one day a week he usually does. Ditto he’d probably book something and then tell me the dates. Unlikely there’d be any issue either way.

For his own holidays he just tells me he’s going, doesn’t consider that it will impact me (which is fair enough, as the one day a week isn’t a huge help!)

Only thing that requires a little planning is me going away - that requires military planning to find a date he can stay with the DCs, take time off work if needed, doesn’t have anything else booked, can rearrange shifts to be home early evening etc .

If I am planning a holiday, I email him dates, he says ok, I book. If he wants to book, he emails me dates, I say ok, he books. Usually all done a few months in advance.

That's it really. In the 11 years we've been divorced, there has never been a problem with either of us wanting to book a holiday. But then we have a pretty amicable relationship, and both 100% put the children 1st.

Thank you for replies:)