A close friend - very close for many years - has always had problems finding a job she ‘wants’ to do. She’s got a degree, a levels. She constantly finds agency work which is short lived and then says she is thinking about what she wants to do. This has been the case for almost ten years now and she is now living back with family as a result of not having found even agency work for the last few weeks.
I feel like I want to tell her she needs to just choose something and go for it, make more of an effort instead of complaining about lack of money and how unfair the situation is. She doesn’t want to be out of work but then also doesn’t seem to do everything possible to get a job, much of the time is spent moping about it.
I feel terrible about it because she’s a great friend, I just get frustrated that she’s so resentful of people who have more than her yet she can’t see it always takes some amount of work somewhere down the line and it doesn’t just fall into your lap.
It’s been worse this time round and I’m not sure if I should be honest with her that the approach she’s taking isn’t working or stay out of it and continue to try and be supportive.