is it me? am i being an awful mother? and wife

[katandmouse38]

My ds 4 has been sick since last week, a bug no doubt, he had friday monday of nursary went back yesterday, now dh has made me keep him off today. however ds has been coming into my room at night ( seperate beds from dh, i snore) anyway ds has been coming into my room while ill, fair enough he is still young.. and he does have a cough still, but last night he was just trying it on, trying to demand me to read books, wipe his nose, and stay awake so he can play. he has had me up almost all night, im not well myself , so both very tired. However i was still willing to take him to nursary, my thought on it was, just because you havent slept doesnt mean you can stay home all day. now im feeling awful cause dh has said im being unreasonable, that ds isnt well. im actually really annoyed with dh now, because ds isnt at nursary, i cant catch up on lost sleep(this is 2nd night he has done this, and ds is sat watching tv happy has pig, well you know, . dh didnt even ask about the night i had he just said he isnt well, in front of my ds, and basically underminded me. im i being awful? do i need to sort myself out and stop being so uptight?

I think you’re obviously tired which is making you more annoyed but He didn’t undermine you, the child is 4. And he’s right, your son may still be carrying the bug even if he appears okay, I’d be angry if a kid came back to nursery and made all the others sick for the sake of another day.

Your husband is being unreasonable to not ask about the night or not help out. When your son was up in the night why couldn’t you tell him to go see daddy? What is your partner doing in the nights? Could he take the day off to look after you both?

many thanks babyonboard,

its hard to see things when your tired, and ive been very grumpy with dh, my dh works, and we have always had this arrangement, its suits us, he will let me sleep later when he finshes work this evening.. which seems an age away.. i will try not to be a grumpy mummy until then. ha ha

I think you loose perspective when v tired so understandable and men arent v good at helping as they “work” so feel they dont need to do much more. However your “work” as a stay at home mum is 24/7 at the mo. Yes when he gets home from work he can look after your son and then you have an early night then you’ll have some sleep if he’s up in the night. Thats not an unreasonable request as when a single parent i worked all day then would come home look after my son sometimes be up all night then go to work the next day. Give yourself a break and get him to help!

Well i completely sympathise. I actually feel a bit of unreasonable rage at the moment myself at the moment. I have two sick children to take care of and I am extremely sick myself. One of them keeps throwing up all over the place and the other won’t letgo of me. Meanwhile my fit and healthy husband came home at 9:30 last night (spent the evening indulging in exercise or various sorts), didn’t do any tidying at all (despite a mountain of dishes), and left child’s vomit (son threw up and told DH about it) for me to clean up. Obviously he’s just trying to avoid getting sick and needs to work a bit more this week because I need some money which will take a bit of extra work for him to get but I am tired and dizzy and everything hurts so I ambeing a bit unreasonable

Racecardriver

Sending lots of sympathy, two children!! Im almost embarrassed 😳 ive moaned about the one.. Of course tho, if your dh catches it to, that will make it three children 😂 x hope you get the chance to relax later.