Boyfriend more intelligent.

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I sometimes wonder where I've been my DP seems to know every book film out. Hell say things like,"its like in the film...." Its not an obscure thing either.
I just feel as if I don't know anything.
The other day my friend was round and they talked about camera lenses for ages. He is so knowledgeable. I felt out of it.
I feel as if I've gone around in a dream.
I have my own interests and am finishing off my degree but somehow feel inadequate. Maybe its a combination of factors. The menopause, time is running out and I'm panicking that I don't know anything. He's put me on a pedastal and says I'm the best at.......A list of attributes including how intelligent I am. It never bothered me before I met him but it does now. I think its good to be up to date with current affairs and be well read etc but is that really going to solve my issue ?

It's nice when both people in a relationship think they've lucked out! And it sounds like he does.

I think this is way more likely to be a midlife crisis than a relationship issue. But if it isn't, you need to examine why this relationship feels different.

General knowledge is just that. Loads of different kinds of intelligence. Are you actually interested in discussing the things he is keen on? DH knows loads about things I don’t know or care much about, just need enough common ground!

Putting each other on a pedestal isn’t a good plan.

So read more?

Or watch youtube. My son knows EVERYTHING. In a general knowledge sense. Its all the bloody YouTube he watches he's only 13 and the stuff he comes out with is unreal.

He's not necessarily more intelligent OP. He just remembers 'stuff'.

^This!

I very much felt this way when I met my DH. He had done a fine art degree and would sit round discussing culture and philosophy with his friends, whilst I was a student nurse who could only really talk about soap operas. It gave me a massive complex for a while. But overtime I think we have sort of evened out IYSWIM. I watch all kinds of films that I wouldn't have seen on my own. We both keep abreast of global news. But I have my own passions (generally environmental) and he has his (which I still don't fully understand). If you are reaching menopause, I'm guessing that you know more than you give yourself credit for. You can't teach life experience. I also think having a degree helped my confidence in some ways. Maybe it validated to me that I know 'Stuff' too?? The man loves you OP. To paraphrase Bridget Jones "just the way you are".

My husband is the trivia king and I'm the one with the common sense.

Ah it's all very different. I LOVE films and television, and pop culture knowledge, so I will know more of this than my DP but he knows so much more than me in so many other areas, which I love!

You are definitely not inadequate in any way, those just aren't your interests.

I know nothing of films, I have little interest. He isn't more intelligent than you - film knowledge is film knowledge. You're probably just feeling a bit down. xx

There's more to intelligence than knowledge. It's down to how you think and whether it always matches the mainstream

Thanks for your kind and insightful comments. I was feeling rather sensitive about this but feel much better now !!!