Dealing with insults from his Ex

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Been seeing a lovely man for 6 months. He had been separated for a couple of years when I met him but hadn’t got round to divorcing. Now that he is divorcing and it’s clear he’s in a new relationship his Ex is being very difficult and insulting about me to others.

She’s never met me. Knows almost nothing about me. But is clearly looking at me on social media and making wild assumptions.

She’s spoken about me repeatedly to their daughter (who I’ve not met yet) and mutual friends (who I’ve not met yet either). The insults and stories are so childish, appalling and SO way off the mark that it should be funny. Only it isn’t. It makes me feel very angry and upset - and I have no recourse.

I’m hoping that over time the people who really matter will realise what utter bullshit she’s spreading.

But I’m having trouble coping knowing the extent of the lies being spread about me.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you deal with it?

Yes I've had this in the past. She spread ridiculous rumours, including telling people I was a "Coke head". I've never taken drugs in my life. It really upset me for a while, but everyone that knew me and was important to me knew the truth. So I eventually stopped worrying about it.

It's not nice, and I feel really bad for you. But it's just a bitter ex and she will end up looking the fool once everyone realises.

But it's just a bitter ex and she will end up looking the fool once everyone realises

This is so true, you read so many threads on here from the ex’s who make no sense & just sound bitter and twisted and cannot except they’ve been dumped.
Remain dignified and good luck

Accept even

What does your DP say about all of this?
Has he had words with his Ex about all of this?

To quote Michelle Obama "When they go low, we go high."

I have experienced this from a neighbour (long story) and I knew those people who knew me wouldn't believe it and she ended up looking like a complete loon.

I did have a friend challenge her publicly in the school playground as the slagging off had included my friend. Apparently everyone went silent to listen and everyone saw crazy woman backtracking her statement.

In your case your OH should tell her to stop, she is embarrassing herself. It is wrong for her to tell lies about you to their child.

Thanks to everyone who has replied.

The relationship between my DP and his Ex is really not good and she’s said worse (and some) about him too. He’s sympathetic, but really there’s a limit to what he can do here. They are starting mediation soon and it will be one of many points raised, especially with regards to what us being said to their daughter.

I have no intention of contacting or meeting her ever. My heart dink’s at the thought of having to deal with this kind of crap for the foreseeable future.

is / sinks (above)