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Am I overreacting?

10 replies

Sandy1214 · 22/01/2019 11:57

Started a new relationship not long.
At first we would talk all the time and he'd make so much effort with me.
Since we decided to go all in, he's different.

We text daily but it feels forced, he doesn't make any effort to see me but yet does tell me he wants me and that I'm his. He gets a bit jealous of silly things. When I ask him he says he's just really busy at the moment.

I just feel at the start of relationship it should be exciting and passionate and he should want to get to know me. But he doesn't.

What should I do?

OP posts:

WheelyCote · 22/01/2019 12:07

You do you....

All the things you did before you got together. Keep busy. Then whatever happens....you've got your own life.

HollowTalk · 22/01/2019 12:11

You should tell him it's not working for you. Don't accept him back on any terms. He's playing you for a fool and you can do MUCH better than this.

MMmomDD · 22/01/2019 12:21

How often do you see each other, and how does it feel when you are together ?
Some people aren’t great texters...
And some are busy at work...

As long as there is passion and good time in actual real life - that is all that matters, no?

category12 · 22/01/2019 13:23

If it doesn't feel right and he's making no effort to see you, then don't hang on.

Also, red flag in petty jealousy. Red flag in "owning" you.

All in all, not worth the headspace. Ditch.

Myheartbelongsto · 22/01/2019 13:29

Get rid.

That's what you should do.

RealEyes · 22/01/2019 13:56

People make effort for who they want to make effort for. NOBODY is too busy

Musti · 22/01/2019 13:59

I'd be concerned about the jealousy thing and wondering if he's either controlling or fooling around and tarnishing you with his brush. If he he just seemed to be losing interest I'd scale down how much effort I put and do my own thing and see if he then made the effort. Sometimes when one side makes a lot of effort the other side can get complacent.

hellsbellsmelons · 22/01/2019 14:04

Haven't you already posted this?
thread here

RealEyes · 22/01/2019 14:08

@hellsbellsmelons I thought I had read the exact same post??

Different name but word for word.

MumsyJ · 22/01/2019 14:21

Jealousy, less effort? Walk away! Massive red flag.

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