Loss of sex drive after baby

[Ginmakesmesin]

Firstly, I've name changed for this as I'm embarrassed and don't want this linked to my other posts in case someone somehow figures out who I am.

I'm also not sure whether this is the right part of the forum to ask this but I'll give it a go anyway.

Since having my baby approx 10 months ago I have almost completely lost my sex drive. In addition to this, I am pretty much dry down there now so if I did want sex I'd definitely have to use lube etc which, whilst ok to an extent, is not ideal. I'm in my early 30s.

I'm not sure what to do? Shall I go to my Dr? Is there anything else I should or could do? Is this normal? It's really getting me down and whilst my DH is understanding I appreciate it can't go on forever.

Sex for me was agony for the first 8 - 10 weeks post birth. I had a rather traumatic experience that ended in a c section. Being 3 months out, i am now back to normal but also was very dry. Perseverance helped me slightly. I wouldn’t say normal but what was your birth like? A lot of women naturally don’t want sex as a result of being exhausted parents but if you DO and it seems impossible then that’s an issue. I would definitely go to the doctors. They can provide creams etc that help you regain your natural lubrication. Are you back on contraception? Could this be having an effect?

I've just bitten the bullet and booked a Dr appointment, I think even just saying m issue here (albeit on an annon forum) has made me feel a tiny bit more confident to actually talk about it with someone.

I'm on the mini pill and I did wonder if that was contributing towards my issue. I'm also still breastfeeding which I have read can also cause problems.

I really hope there is something that can help, I feel so down about it.

Totally normal with breastfeeding. I found it got better when my periods returned

Totally normal - breastfeeding, pill, tiredness, any resentment towards DH (!) will be having an effect. Use lube for now if you do want to have sex. As long as you still like your DH your sex drive will eventually return.

I know it’s difficult but try not to feel down. You’ve given birth - your body is amazing and you will get back to it! :-) the doctors will help plus it is very common, if you have any mum friends then I’d consider discussing with them too and if not, there’s always on here!

It is very common, mother natures trick. I would try a battery friend to see if that wakes things up. We went through a lube phase.

I could have written this post. DS is 7 months and my libido is still at rock bottom. He is an appalling sleeper and bf (and loves milk!) and so I’m hoping this is what is causing it for me as well as it was never an issue prior to his arrival. My poor husband is being patient and kind, but I do feel for him.