Weird ex

[Carmen1395]

Hi my ex has tried to follow me on social media I accepted not knowing who it was at first (profile pic and name changed)
I then found out it was my ex from over 10 years ago. Had a little nosy around his social media then blocked him. Not reallly asking for advice but it’s really seemed to bother me.
He seems like he is doing well, he has a degree in medicine has a lot of hobbies that seem expensive. Photos with very nice cars and houses. I know it sounds dumb but he was very abusive to me I now have mental health issues as I have done for years that stemmed from his physical and emotional abuse. I find it hard to leave me house most days and here he is the fucking wanker leading a very nice and seems seccuessful life. There was a photo of him with a woman but no face can be seen on the pic and I felt like messaging her and telling her to fucking run for her life. When I was with him he would study different subjects at uni every year then use the loans to pay for stupid hobbies he used to obsess over like weird phases ( one was a breed of dog he has to have and was obsessed with he payed £3000 for this dog 🙄) so I’m trying to think to myself he is still the same way, very strange person who moves from
One obsession to the next. I just feel
Pissed off and wish I never looked on his social media and started feeling shit about my own life. I wanted to go to uni to be a nurse/midwife I never pursued it as I have severe anxiety and he knocked all my confidence after years of abuse.

I'm so sorry all of these memories are coming back for you OP. His intentions clearly aren't good even now, if he uses a different name for his profile.
If he tries to friend you again with a different profile (I know of people whose exes have done th/used unregistered numbers to send text messages), you could see how many mutual friends you have. When I had FB (quit for MH reasons), I only accepted people I didn't know if we had at least 3 or 4 mutual friends so that I knew they were genuine.
Hope you're OK.

PS. I had a weird ex too (in very different ways, and if I wrote them all people might wonder if I was for real), but I was also one of the only people he confided in so I can also understand if others who have met your ex think he is "normal."

Thankyou for your replies!
I won’t I’ve now put a block on anyone New adding me on my Facebook and other sm.
Yes he likes people to think he’s very genuine when deep down he is an awful person, I’m worried he will/is doing it again to another woman. Even when we split he got a few women to message me telling me how horrible I was because he had lied to them and told them I was a cheat and broke his heart. I know it’s a bad thing to say but I hope his life is really shit and it’s all just a show for sm because it’s only what he deserves.

Why are you taking his fb as gospel? Anyone can stand by a fancy car and claim it's theirs! Anyone can claim they fly planes or skydive as a hobby! And who puts photos of them and a 'partner' up without a face?! He is still an abusive twat no matter what he claims on Facebook! CLAIMS!

Don't let him back in your head.

What Thingsdogetbetter said, very sensible

Think of this - you are probably not the only ex who is trying to find out about on social media. He hasn't got anywhere with you but he might with someone else, poor soul, which takes the pressure off you.