NC with ex - dropped money over

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So broke it off with my moody ex last Sunday
Left on bad terms (he always ends up walking out / leaving me and my lo) after endless chats and years of trying to make it work, I finished it last Sunday - well actually he left me after a silly disagreement like alway - I asked for him to come back later - he refused - so the next day I thought i can't keep going through this so decided to stick to it
Some days he's left it a few, sometimes 9 days in December
Anyway it's been a week. Have blocked him and he called me last week and I told him I was done
He said fine and told me to fuck off, then texted saying sorry

Today I've come home to £40 in my letter box. He used to help me with food. And a wall mirror he ordered a week before we split up
He said last week he had the mirror but I told him to return it
It was the flat (my flat we don't live together but he's here a lot)
The mirror was outside my door
Haven't heard from him though
Not sure how i feel
I feel angry and hurt. He hasn't tried and the fact he's left money I think is more for his conscience as he knows I'm struggling financially

Is the money not for your LO (if his child)?

Regardless, the relationship is toxic. Don't invite him back into your left except for contact with LO (if his).

*into your life

No lo isn't his
Although she was a baby when we got together(well 3 but still)
She misses him as he was a big part of her life and all she knows
She sees her dad every other and is very amicable
It's my food shop money that he used to give me and it had 'food' written on the envelope
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Maybe he feels guilt for being a moron to you, maybe he's doing it to clear his conscience or maybe he's doing it as a final goodbye. Personally I think he's doing it to try and keep a hold over you and make you reminisce that he's not such a bad person.

You need to write down all the times he has done awful things to you and keep it on your phone to remember and not go back. NC is hard, but what's harder is your LO growing up with someone like that coming and going from her life. She is only young now, but in a few years time this kind of behaviour could have really damaging effects on her. Plus what kind of example does it show her for how men should treat her when she's older.

You have totally done the right thing, so I think what's best to be done now is to try and not think any more about the money. If he drops any more off it may be best to send it back to him with a note saying 'please don't send any more money' also if you don't want the mirror then return it to him (without seeing him).

This username- thanks for your post. Very interesting.
Yes I agree that he wants to have some form of hold...
I doubt it's a final goodbye. As it's my weekly food budget so I suspect it will be weekly.
Well taking it doesn't bother me if I'm honest as he owes me £200 (that's another matter ) it's on my credit card. So I'll use it for that.
Until it stops anyway.
I doubt he will keep that up...in the past he's owed me money and paid straight to my credit card but I've removed his card (and doesn't owe big amounts like last time ) just the £200
Funny coz my friend says text him and see what he is playing at but I can't bring myself to message him after doing the hard bit, no contact and sending a message a week after he left? I know I'm thinking with my head not heart coz don't get me wrong I keep getting stabs of pain and missing him....but the good times not the horrible times we walks out on me and my lo
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