It's been so long I need some help....

[Justheretogiveaviewfrommyworld]

Hi, I've been a single mum for 20+ years. Never had a relationship in that time, a few flirtations but that's it.

Anyway, there's this guy at work, I've known him for a while in a purely professional way, worked on things together and felt nothing except what a nice helpful colleague. However, we had a meeting the other day and it was like BANG he's gorgeous and I must have him now. I have had really detailed dreams of us together. Not all sexual either. He's single btw. So wise Mumsnet, do we think it's boredom, (recently finished a big community project) hormones or real? If it's real, what should I do next/look out for?

Exciting!
Are there any down sides (other then fleeting embarrassment) to asking him out for a drink and possibly being rebuffed? Is one of you more senior, for example? Do you mix socially?

Not senior, no, but we've never mixed socially either. I feel like a silly school girl!

Personally, I would avoid trying to hook up with a man you work with. It could become very problematic on so many levels.

I think you're right, Aqua, in my logical mind, it just hit me by surprise!

Loads of people meet partners at work though. When you’re a single parent it can be hard to meet anyone any other way. What’s there to lose in asking him out for a drink? Go on OP. You’ve been prioritising being a mum for 20 years. Give it a try.

Oh, when you put it like that...