Went out with another couple last night but on my own as H wasn’t well. Conversation got round to the guy (who is middle class, 57, very senior position) talking about his colleagues and saying all the guys he worked with of all classes and ages constantly talked about porn, shared stuff around and were either seeing hookers or in affairs because they only had sex on average 10 times a year with wife/partner. He said all men are obsessed by sex and it’s the main thing they think about in his experience. Luckily his gf (my friend is mid 39s, no kids and very lovely and very very open minded) As someone whose H (at 54) seems to have become more sex/porn obsessed in recent years (which both annoys me and kills my self esteem) I didn’t say anything, but it did hit home. I think it’s a bit of a nightmare when many women’s interest declines (I know not everyone’s does ) but many men’s doesn’t. It seems to be a hard thing to compromise on, without somewhat feeling ‘obliged’ . I can see I feel now why a lot of marriages split at the 20 to 25 year stage, even though on paper life should be easier. All of the people I know who seem re invigorated are in newer relationships , even post 50 or having fun being single and enjoying it. Anyone else feel disillusioned in a similar way if that’s the kind of crap we have left to look forward to, or is it just me. Thing was I couldn’t deny it, because I have had that issue and so it seems have most of my older married friends.