Gay app on boyfriend's phone

[HappyHappySunshine]

I need to talk. I found the grindr app on the 'Siri suggestions' part of his iPhone lock screen. It was there then disappeared before my eyes, which I think means he was using it last night when I went to bed, and then he's deleted it 🙈 I've confronted him, but he denies using the app. I don't know what to think. I feel ill and my head is a mess 😣

From a quick Google...

"Siri Suggestions is essentially a screen that shows you the apps you used most recently and the people you've texted or called most recently"

I dont have much to add to this as everyone else has got it pretty spot on but just want to say i have been through this before with an ex he was watching gay porn and typing in 'looking for gay sex' into google so i understand how you are feeling. We ended soon after this dont think he turned out to be gay and your partner might not be either but he's still being unfaithful and disrespectful either way in my opinion! Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

He must think you came down in the last shower

Did you ?

@apacketofcrisps not really needed and definitely not helpful!

How is it not helpful, it’s true @loopeylou92

LIAR:

*Denied using Grindr last night.
*Claimed he previously used Grindr to meet women.
*Has never informed you that he is attracted to men.

CHEATER:

*Sexual fishing to see if female school friend would bite.
*Went on Grindr, a dating/hookup app for gay/bisexual men.

Happy, he is not committed to you and has possibly put your sexual health at risk.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

You can go into Battery usage in settings on a phone and it will tell you how long a person spent on an app in Battery usage percentage. Then you can see if he's really "using" it.

But yeah, it's a gay app, primarily a hook up one, for men.

If he was Bi curious and just curious then he'd be looking at gay porn wouldn't he? Rather than have hook ups from a dating site accidentally fall onto his lap.

You could join and set up a fake profile to find him. To be honest I'd be just packing up his stuff if I were you. You can't trust him an inch.

Its a gay app!!!!

You sound young don’t waste your life on a guy like this.
For avoidance of doubt, Flirting with other women is not okay...

Sorry this has happened but betterto know now rather than after you are married with children...!?

He's told you quite a few lies here.

Either he starts being honest and together you decide if your relationship can withstand him being bisexual....or.....you leave, because you can't stay with a liar.

I checked his battery life and the app didn't come up. He's out the house. I think having that app says it all.

I'm not young, to the person who suggests I am. I'm in shock and trying my best to process this.

For those of you saying I'm stupid etc, bit harsh! I came on here for support, and not to be judged.

For those of you being kind and supportive, thank you.

Hi Op I think if the app has been deleted it deletes all data to do with it so it wouldn't show up on the battery life bit anyway.

So sorry you're going through this

OP, I went in my 'Siri app suggestions' and there were the 8 apps I have most recently been in. You deserve better I am sure, and definitely not being lied to by your partner.

You’re probably in shock, it will take time to process this. Good idea for him to go away for a few days so this can sink in.