Hi,
Help, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time. I told my partner almost a year ago for the first time I wanted to split up. Due to his behaviour. Coming home from work and proceeding to spending most of the night in the kitchen smoking weed & drinking most nights, whilst I feed bathe and put or 3dd to bed. Everytime I would mention how much I hate this he would just shrug his shoulders and say he's been working all day, like I just sit around doing nothing. He also has other kids that stay over at weekends and for as long as I can remember it's me that gets up on weekends with all the kids makes their breakfast and all other meals, cleans up after them etc. He again can't see why this would bother me, I just feel like he doesn't pull his weight. If we have an argument he calls me the worst names & expects me to pretend like it didn't happen the next day. On other occasions he'll fall out with me for no reason and go on to ignore me for a few days then out of the blue he'll decide in his head that he's over it and things are fine again. I again am expected to just go back to normal.
So after 2 weeks of not speaking at all he asked if we could sit down and talk and I agreed. He promised he would stop smoking weed, cut down on the drinking, help out more around the house and help out more with the kids. Which he did for a month or so before the smoking and drinking gradually got worse again and he stopped helping out so much. So I have found myself going round in circles, giving him chance after chance & have finally decided that it's over once and for all. He's never going to change I know that & I don't want my dd's around this any more as I'm so unhappy all the time and I know it isnt fair on them I'm also pregnant (which was not planned).
So I guess the reason for this post is I just needed to get it off my chest.