new relationship advice - both have a child

[goodenough8]

I have been dating a nice man for almost a year. We get on well although we cant see each other often and have been very slow to progress. We each have a child and so far have not introduced each other or the children yet - other than in passing. He is still recovering from difficult break up and very cautious about taking forward steps such as meeting each others kids. I am much more keen to progress and getting frustrated/restless. I dont know why I feel in a hurry as dont want to have more children or move in with a partner, but I am a romantic and I guess a little impatient. Dont want to throw away a potentially good partnership but also not sure if I am wasting my time or if he will ever want to take things forward. Anyone been in similar situation?

I would talk to him about it, ask him how he feels, let him know how you feel. You need to accept he may not be ready for a serious relationship. Give yourself a time limit, say three months and if the relationship isn't progressing the way you want it to then move on. Obviously you don't tell him about the time limit, but if the relationship isn't going where you want it to move on so you can meet someone who does want the same things as you.

He shouldn't have entered into a relationship if still burning from the past 🙄.
Just give yourself a timeframe, if no improvement, it's time to move on. I don't appreciate time wasters. You're not in a hurry, you've been together long enough to be seeing certain changes in certain areas.

Thanks, sound advice

I think have a good chat with him.If you feel that all is right in other areas then what is the hurry if you are long term partners? Have you talked about a future together or is it more casual than that?
My most recent nearly 1 year relationship ended partly as we tried to blend too quickly. He was pushing for it and it got the kids backs up which then made things very difficult and was one of the reasons things didn't work out. I should have been stronger but also feeling pushed into it did not help either. Dont be that person.

How do you know he is still recovering, what is he doing to show that?

I think if children are involved he is right to he is cautious but that doesn't mean he should be investing in getting to know you.
Do you feel you know each other well or is he holding back from connection?

Thanks all. I have expressed my frustration in the pace and tried to be patient. he explained that he is scared to do the wrong thing and he has talked a lot about his ex (who was abusive) so I know he is still processing it. I dont want to 'blend' families in a hurry at all, but dont see why we cant meet very casually with the kids. Its hard to know each other properly without seeing the parenting side of each other and to me its a matter of principle that we meet the significant others. I guess I'm just looking for a sign that its got a future or more than casual, and dont want to just be a rebound thing. Its hard to break the habit of always thinking 'whats next?'