Advice please?

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Iv'e recently found out i'm pregnant, i'm around 8-9 weeks... when me and my partner found out... we were both ecstatic, me mostly due to being told I possibly couldn't conceive. 3 weeks later, my partner and me have broken up to him causing so much stress, he has been utterly horrible... last night I was in a lot of discomfort and pain and he decided to leave me and go get drunk! knowing full well I was ringing 111 for advice... this isn't the first time he's chosen alcohol over me, but now there is the baby to think about, Im so heartbroken and feel like this could be my fault, because he keeps saying my hormones are making me a horrible person. I honestly don't know what to do, I live alone and have found out tonight that he's once again gone partying even after knowing how upset I am.

Do you think he will ever change? I have broken up with him, but I just want me and the baby to be enough for him... please can someone just give me their opinion! all I feel is hurt and disappointment to him!

Oh OP he's not going to change.

Get yourself geared up for single parenthood cos thayt's where this is heading

He will never change and it's time to fully take your blinders off. You will never be able to trust or depend on him. Now is the time to dump his abusive arse and focus on your future with your baby. Don't waste another day on this man.

He won't change, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go it alone!

It sounds like there's a massive back story to this, and without knowing the full story it's hard to give an honest opinion.

From what you've said though...I agree with previous posters in that you need to prepare yourself for going it alone.

He sounds like an absolute twat, and if I was in your position of thinking I might not be able to have children, I'd be seizing this opportunity and planning my future without him being in it

Oh such good news about your pregnancy OP. Just concentrate on staying stress free, especially at your current stage, don't worry about him, he's clearly chosen the path he thinks suits him ( WRONG PATH!).
You can also talk to your family and close friends for comfort and support. You will be just fine. Please don't take the irresponsible git back, he's not worth it. All the absolute best with your pregnancy .

Thank you. Obviously I'm not the perfect person and I have had a go at him on many occasions due to stress, I know I need to walk away... it just hurts so much. All I keep thinking is 'why am I not enough'?

My baby is my world already and I know it's early days, but this being such a miracle and such a surprise I will be the best mammy and daddy to my little one no matter what.

All I keep thinking is 'why am I not enough?'

It's not you, it's the drink. You said yourself it isn't the first time he's chosen alcohol over you.

My baby is my world already and I know it's early days, but this being such a miracle

With all due respect, I've seen so many people end up single parents with this attitude... it's like that's the only thing that exists and is important. You're still a human being and so many partners leave because they see somebody who has ceased to exist in the real world, a screaming hormone monster that can only make cooing noises over scans and then a baby. I may, however, be reading too much into your words, and I apologize in advance if I have.

Bluntly, if he can't be there for you now, why would you assume he ever will be? Hard as it may be, accept that he's just a pathetic, self-centred waste of oxygen and get on without him. Forget this shit about you not being enough, it's not you that is lacking.

This is a miracle to me because I have been told countless of times over the years that I possibly could be infertile. I wanted him to fight for me and his baby, but he obviously doesn't want too!

He will always be in the babies life and I will never EVER take that away from him... he is going to be a brilliant Dad, he's just got to prove to me that his drinking isn't a problem anymore.