When to holiday with new partner?

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So come August when we do our holidays we will have been 'official' for 1 year and 9 months. We both have children from other relationships (mine lives with me, his doesn't live with him), we have met each other's kids and the kids have met each other. Our kids are very different ages and We see each other around 2-3 times a week. When do people think it's appropriate to start having holidays together? (BTW any holiday would only be in England and not abroad)

At the thick end of two years together and given you'll be staying in the country, I suspect that one of you is over thinking this. I'm surprised you're not doing it already.

What ages are your children and what sort of thing would they like to do?

You're well overdue to go OP. Is there any hard and fast rule about it when everyone has met each other and gets on well?

Eek! Been with DP 3years and still haven’t done it. Because 1) they’re all teens and 2) we are reallllly slowwwwwwwww with the blending.

Might do it this year but more likely next! Haha!

I feel like we should but don't know if I want to. He has teen girls and me a young boy. My son can be difficult, especially with other people and with him as I suspect he feels jealous given that it's us the majority of the time. I suppose holidays are a time everyone is supposed to have fun and I'm worried about it not working.

OK that makes a difference with that age range and your son finding things difficult. Why not have separate holidays? At some point your partner's girls will want to go away with friends, so things will be different then. For now it sounds as though the type of holiday you all want will be different and your son will welcome the time alone with you.

Yes we probably will holiday separately this year as I think it will be too much too soon. I just wondered what other people generally do in this situation. I think we would manage to entertain them all, it's just the general 'blending' I suppose I'm worried about especially given the age difference.

If you think of it from your son's point of view, it would be lovely for him to have you to himself for a while on holiday.

Well I think it's sort of working it's self out. He mentioned looking at holidays earlier with the kids. I asked if I should book some time off when he's off again so we can spend some time together at some point (he has 2 weeks and will go away for 1 week). He replied and suggested we could go camping all together for a few days. I think this is probably the best way round it.... we still holiday alone with our kids but do a short break all together and probably a few days spent here and there over the summer. Maybe next year we will feel ready to holiday together.