34 too old to uproot my life and move to London?

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Single, live outside another large uk city.

Fancy moving to London just for general experience of it, but I am very settled here and want to find someone to settle down with! My priority is finding someone.

Would moving to London be a mistake do you think at this age?

You are still young! Of course it isn't too late. It is never too late to do something you want to do. I wouldn't do it just to find a partner though - do it for yourself.

I’m more worried about moving to London and therefore limiting my chances of meeting someone!

...Because I’m settled where I am

Depends on whether you will be able to afford to live alone or have to be in a share house. I wouldn't move to London to live like a student at 34, but if I could afford to rent or buy my own flat I would. I am biased as a London dweller though, I tried living elsewhere and came back after a year. What is it you want from London that you don't have where you are?

I just feel a bit bored. I think I would definitely move back to where I am now in years to come. But London i think would push me out of my comfort zone a bit.

I couldn’t afford to buy. I would have to rent but could probably afford to live alone.

More men in London might mean bigger chance to meet someone. I'd go for it.

Good Lord, you're still young! I lived in London as a young women and flipping loved it. I'd go for it.

Go for it. You would have a great social life even if you didn’t meet a life partner.

It depends on so many things.
Will you be able to find a job that you like?
Are you good at making new friends? Are you ready to be on a look out and date a lot - because without a natural friends group - and it you want to meet some one - you’ll need to put in an effort.

London is great and can be a lot of fun. But can also be a lonely place.
And yes - there are a lot of men here; but equally a lot of women wanting to meet and settle down.

Finally - if your plan is to eventually settle where you are - the ‘move to London to meet someone’ makes less sense.
That would limit your choices of men to those who’d want to move, and specifically to the area you are from.... What if you meet a Londoner who doesn’t want to move? Then what?

I did this in my 30s because I too was bored. Amazing. I loved it. So much going on. So many places to see and go. Restaurants and bars to try. Cultural stuff. Now’s the time to do it for sure! No better place to find a life partner 😉

Do it OP!

Far too old for such a big move.

You want to settle down in a comfy armchair with a Catherine Cookson and a nice cup of tea and await your death, which is only a mere 55 years away.

One is never too old to enjoy London. Even when (or if!) you outgrow the nightclubs and bars, there are pubs and restaurants, theatres, concerts, museums and galleries, lectures, walks, parks, and a huge range of activities which provide opportunities to meet new people. Plus public transport within London and connections to many other parts of the country

at Jiggin's comment. Nice touch about the Catherine Cookson.

I lived in London for many year just recently relocated to south west to live my partner. I love London but it's not easier to meet someone there than anywhere else. I have some fabulous friends in London but are still single despite thier best efforts. If you want to go for a change and new life do it but not to find a man.

My single friends in London moan that no men want to commit because they can date different women every night of the week if they want. This is a sweeping generalisation of course but move if it is what you want but not necessarily to find a man!

What is it you want from London? A particular way of life or social events? A certain community?
I moved to London when I was 31. The reason was that London is where my (now) husband lives and works. I was feeling restless in my home town and was after something more and different. However 12 years on I really want to go 'home'. I miss my town. At the time I was very blinkered to what was going on around me - community/social events, clubs and groups etc. However I now realise much of what I do with my life is happening in my home town (or nearby towns) - not always exactly the same but similar. Essentaily I could live the same life I have now in London (with a few tweaks) in my home town.
Why London? Think of 10 things you want to do in your free time - can you do them in your home town? London is very expensive and why it may seem to have 'loads going on' you often have to travel long distances on public transport to get there.

I love London, but I can never afford to spend more than 5 days there. If you're going to live in the suburbs to avoid the extortionate cost of rentals in the centre, you may as well just pick any other city and save a shed load of money.

Do you live in a small town right now? If you want pushing out of your comfort zone, try big cities like Birmingham, Manchester, Leeds, Sheffield. Lots of stuff going on, lots of diversity, good transport etc. Sheffield is my favourite although I am biased as i live there :)

Go and enjoy! If I was single still, I couldn’t think of anything I’d want to be less than settled forever in a small ish city. Move, enjoy it while you can.

I up and moved to a huge mega city in Asia in my late 20s as I was fed up with dating and with my career progression at the time. I met my dh (also an expat) about 2 months after I moved. It was wonderful. We had a fantastic time and I never would have met him if I hadn’t taken the plunge.