Partner never helps.

[MELISSA2808]

Hey so my. Partner moved out to sort out his finances start of the new year. He stays round 3nights a week , when he's round he does absolutely nothing and I mean that he will just sit play games or watch films or stay in bed untill evening some times. In the morning I get up and sort out the kids then make him a cuppa tea and ask him nicely to get up it's always 5 minuets then when that's up yet again it's a no. I asked him to get up so he can spend time with us all as we never get to see him and yet again it was a no. So I left very upset and crying I feel like an idiot to be crying over this but it's going on for so long now I'm just heartbroken I'm really low and just can't seem to see him really making an effort I do absolutely everything i do all the chores cooking taking kids to pre school /nursery. Any advice? Xx

Is he the children’s father?

Stop him from staying over. If he’s not pitching in then he has no need to be there. Him lounging around is making more nor less work for you and it’s making you miserable. It’s also a horrible unhealthy dynamic for your DC to witness. It’s your home, stop him from coming over.

You've got yourself a proper cocklodger there. I know it's painful but you need to get rid. He's not contributing anything positive to any of your lives.

Why is he lounging in bed and not working if his finances need sorting? Why did you agree to bail him out?

Is he the children's father?

How does moving out improve his finances? Surely what he need to do is get a new job?

Personally I can’t see the point of him if he brings nothing positive to the relationship.

Oh ditch him. Who needs that shit in their life? You really don’t need to settle for some damn lazy sponger.

Ugh - kick him out! He is contributing absolutely nothing at all and making more work for you. I had one of these and now he's taking me to the cleaners. Entitled twat. Stop making him cups of tea. Hoover loudly around the bed and change the locks. If he's the kids' father then perhaps go to a mediator to make arrangements for the kids (give you a bit of time off) and figure out whether he will contribute financially. Twat

There's no relationship here, you need to split up

Where does he live? How does running two households instead of one help improve finances?

So he was living with you, but moved out for his finances? So why? Is he staying with a parent and he doesn't need to give them money, leaving you with all the bills?

Is he the children's father? I don't see what he's doing in your life if he isn't getting out of bed all day, what does he bring into your life?