He wants housed valued

[Mango88]

My marriage is looking pretty much over & H is saying he’s going to get house values (joint names). Is that right or do I start legal process first?

Go see a solicitor. Don't take legal advice from your ex!

If you have children, you may be entitled to remain in the house.

Go and get advice, you know all the facts. Don't let him tell you what he thinks you should know.

Go get advice. He may just want it valued to have an accurate value. But get advice asap.

I think in the event of a split where one person might be buying the other one out having the house valued is very sensible.

As pp said, if you have children he can have the house valued, but that’s as far as it goes. He can’t sell it. You’re entitled to stay in the home until your children are at least 16. Get legal advice.

Getting the house valued is a useful piece of information for both of you. It will be critical to informing you both on what you can expect from a settlement and how you can get on with you life. You may want to ensure that it an accurate and objective valuation. If not, get one done yourself.

NB its not correct to say you are entitled to stay in the house for X years just because you have children. It is a possible outcome if the circumstances are right. Need and affordability will inform this. Plus its not always a desirable thing as it can defer a problem for you (releasing equity to him) to a time when you are less capable to do anything about it.

Turn it around and suggest that’s an excellent idea, I’ll get it valued by someone too and then we can choose the third estate agent for the last together to make up the three.

And then be very surprised when his idea of getting a valuation done involves only one estate agent, because you’d obviously naturally assumed that when he said get it valued he meant do it properly - ie the average of three quotes.

(Not that I know for sure but whenever I’ve heard about getting houses valued - for divorce or anything else, I’ve always been told to use average of three - and of one is a real outlier then potentially bringing in a fourth).

And get your own valuation from somewhere different from him. Don’t tell him, just do it. Go see a solicitor, Don’t tell him, just do it. If you have any friends who have been thorough a divorce, speak to them.

Outdated advice to say you are entitled to stay in the house with children.

When I divorced I was advised to get three valuations in writing.