My anxiety is ruining my relationship

[MozzchopsThirty]

My boyfriend cheated on his ex wife a lot and has been open and honest about this.
She cheated too.
It all sounds very unhealthy

He's given me no reason to think he's cheated on me

Anyway today he said he could give me a lift somewhere Monday as he has a meeting in London
This is odd as most of his work is regional
I know he had sex with a woman he met at a meeting in London previously

So I said 'is the meeting with the same woman'?
He said 'don't be a dick'
Then that he wasn't impressed with my comment

Now I wish I could just let things go, say nothing, it's not like he's gonna say 'oh yes and I'll probably fuck her again'. It's just a waste of worrying

He's given you no reason to think he's cheated, which is good. However, he has form, which is bad. I think a bit of wariness is sensible but if you really can't relax when he's travelling for business purposes, or when he's out with friends, you're in trouble because you'll make yourself unwell with worry. You need to trust him and hope for the best. You can't do much more. He could be a bit kinder as well!

He could be a bit kinder as well!

I dont know, I think he was being kind. If somebody tried to suggest I was off to shag somebody else just because I was visiting our capital city as a one-off, there would be no relationship left to ruin.

This cheating malarkey never quite goes away does it? Always that element of doubt....🤔

Thing is there is nothing he can do to reassure you is there? I think maybe your energy should go in to strengthening your self esteem and resilience instead?