Once upon a time there was a man and a girl.
First of all.
Me, 26, him, 44.
I’ve always been into older generation so nothing special.
We work together. He worked there for quite some time when I got added. He works in a different department though, but one afternoon we sort of bumped into each other and all of a sudden we’re texting.
And he’s really keen to get to know me and I come over to his place, and he brings the wine and we talk and everything is just really nice.
And the next day he brings down a box of chocolate to my workplace.
And he texts me asking if we’re going to handle work now.
And we both agreed that we don’t like secrets.
Everything seemed just nice.
Few days after I’m off and I go to his place, just because I’m not allowed to have people over.
And we’re like totally open, his friend that works and lives with him, a dude, sits in his bed and we help him to get flights booked and stuff while sort of being very close together.
Work is a bit different but not too much, just like flirts from afar.
Because he’s a manager of a department and well, keep it professional.
Everything seemed fine..
And then my life just fucked up, like big time, and I just got extremely obsessed with him or clingy. And as he works sometimes 95 hrs a week, he just couldn’t handle it.
Aaand then shit just got worse.
And gossip started really bad, everyone saying: He has something with the other girl in his department, which is 19.
He denied it several times when I asked him.
He said once:
We had a short fling together in summer and she had a crush on me but I didn’t. So there’s nothing.
Now she says and told her friends at work that they are in a relationship. While he says they aren’t.
We aren’t together anymore just because yeah I’ve been extremely clingy, due to things that happened in my life. And other things, it just didn’t seem to be the right time.
Then the other dude from the kitchen that very obviously has a crush on me and can’t stand his bosses guts told me that him and her have been shagging all along while he was seeing me.
The dude I was seeing though has said several times don’t always believe what they say in this place, most of it is just bullshit. Which is true most of it is.
Now, today, we all moved into the staff accommodation.
We all.
Me, him, her, and the other dude that has a crush on me.
The walls are so thin I can hear him cough. Lol.
He helped me carry my suitcase upstairs, he was asking.
Then when I went down to the kitchen to put my things away he was cleaning things and I asked him if he needs help so we ended up cleaning the kitchen together while my music was playing. He sometimes humming with it.
And so he was like: do you think we can be cool? Keep it nice in the place? And of course we can.
Then while I was in my room which is above him, me and him were off today, and my door open he came up a few times, once to try to fix the window because it can’t close. Then he tried to find a solution for me to find a place to sleep for me because I don’t have a mattress till Friday.
Then he just came up a few times to be a silly dickhead and shock me with one of those fake lighters that shock you.
When I asked him if I can’t bring my friend over to show him the place he was: sure.
And so when my friend left he came out his room and was like: so who was that old bloke?
Me: my ex from summer.
Him: what the old bloke from the party?
Me: nah. Another ex.
In between the weeks where we had the rather ugly break up and now he was always giving me the stares at work. Sometimes pulling his cute face and I know he knows that I love that face.
Or us just saying hello in our silly cheeky ways.
I’ve just been on dates with another dude I met on a dating app. And he was literally like I was in regards to (him downstairs) absolutely clingy and almost obsessed. No real life anymore everything just was about him and I didn’t care about myself anymore.
Same with that dude I was dating for 2 dates. He got so horribly obsessed and I was like: OMG, I was like him. 😂
Oh yeah, (dude downstairs) cooked for me on one of our dates and all, which was really nice, my fav food as well, he asked me what my fav food was. One time he asked if I wanted to come with him to the x mas market with his kids. Which didn’t happen because his son was having a chest infection.
But all in all..
This all just makes me crazy.
He said it all the time that there was nothing while she told everyone that she is in a relationship with him.
So either he is a effing liar.. (and btw she knows that me and him have been seeing each other) or she is just absolutely crazy.
Or she doesn’t care and they just played a game on me. But why the effort then, because we have never had sex, other things yes, but never sex, and all the dudes that I’ve ever been with just was sex in mind from the very second they met me.
He just meant that he wants to take it slow and get to know me first and build up trust. But we did have the nicest cuddles and all.
The way we slept:
Either spooning or our legs absolutely entangled or holding each other’s hands while sleeping. Never letting go of the touch between each other. Once he let a bath in for me when I went to his place. I didn’t even have to ask.
So I really really really don’t get this..
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I just would like to know what is real.. but the first few weeks after we broke up we didn’t even say hello to each other.
Today was a surprise that he even tried to fix my window.
And I kicked him in the bum when he was having his ass out, lol.
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And what if the dude that has a crush on me and hates (downstairs dude) was just lying his ass off as well?