I cant even start to describe my emotional state at the moment. I have 2 DC, 3 and 5.
This morning my DC3 had a monumental tantrum on our way to daycare. It is -15°C, she laid down on the floor and didn't want to move. I forcibly carried her to daycare, and she was screaming and fighting me. For some way I carried her a ross my back, some time on the front, some time upside down, however I was able to carry her, putring her down every minute or so and asking her to walk. But you know tantrums. When we were about 10m away from daycare she dropped to the floor and a busybody who was driving by stopped and started recording me and saying I was deopping my kod to the floor and she was calling the police.
At that moment I wasn't for a driendly chat, so I think I rolles my eyes and got on to daycare. I dropped DC3 off and school called me to go and pick DC5 up asap since he hit another kid... (diagnose of ADHD and lots of behavioural issues at school). I left for school and then called daycare to ask what happened. They told me police came and took my DC3 to hospital and I shoupd meet them there. When I arrived, they told me I can't see my DC3 until the children's aid society (I don't know if this is the name in the UK, but I am not in the UK) investigation is over. They told me the woman didn't provide any video (in the video you could actually see my DC3 was having a tantrum and I was not abusing her!) and that she had a bruise in her cheek. They told me to go home.
I have been divorced for 3 years. We are a high conflict pair, but never ever either of us raised any concerns of abuse. DC have a paeditrician who they see for regular checkups and vaccines. I was the one pushing even through lawyers for my DC5 to attend a psychologist for help worh his behaviour. Now, I am scared to hell. My XH is for sure going to use this (although it is clear that he didn't have concerns when together or in the last 3.5 years he has been fighting me in court - other issues). Also, anything anyone can say that can be misconstrued. For instance DC told me last week that XH tied them to a post with a rope when they go shopping and he leaves and comes to collect them when he is done. Obviously this can't be true (someone would have asked questions for once!) but what if!?
My kids are my life. I have done nothing else than vare for them. I quit my job to be there for DC5 everytime school called. I am there in no more than 10 minutes while it takes over 1h from any of our offices to get to school.
I am lost, and destroyed and anxious and don't know what to do. Cleaning my house loke crazy but also in the middle of a bathroom reno where I dont have floor in half of it. Shit thing, shit timing, shit all. I am also an immigrant and no one to call or talk to. Except my lawyer. I already called and she said I need to wait for a visit from CAS. But am I allowed to see my kids Friday (as per our visiting schedule?) That I still don't even know. I was not allowed ro see her at the hospital. XH was there with DC3 and his girlfriend and I deopped DC5 off (dad's time for the next 2 nights).