After ending a relationship in late twenties (now early 30s) I have continually been approached by married men, mostly at work. Some have been blatant about it, others I find work closely with me over a period of time (it’s a project based job and continually mixes up the dynamics of who you work with every few weeks), then declare that there’s a spark and they want me either sexually or for something more. One of these people I dated for a few weeks only to find he was married when seeing him confidentially at the weekend in a coffee shop, with ring on finger and kids next to him! Others I’ve met in the same industry but not same company, either at meetings or seminars, and I will often get a LinkedIn message from them asking me out or a piece of paper passed to me asking for a drink. A lot of the time these men don’t even hide that they are married which I find really offensive and makes me feel like shit...am I only good enough for that?
I feel kind of deflated. I’ve met people online dating but I’m drawn to ambitious people generally and there’s plenty of them in my industry.
Spoken to a friend about it and she says I’m very flirty by nature and it’s possibke I give the impression I’m interested even if I am not. Does that give married men the right to behave in this way? Because I am outgoing and personable does that put decent men off?
Feeling fed up and wondering if others have any experience of this.