On the verge of a break up plus 6months pregnant with baba no2

[Littlegirlboo]

Hi ladies.. I don't actually no what I am looking for here posting but I am 6months pregnant with baby no2.. which was planned and been with my partner 5years and living together. Very much happy and in love.. yes I had put on a bit of weight from we first started going out.. which I am not happy about either but this past year since having baby no1 who is 16months old and being pregnant with baby no2 due end of April I have been finding it difficult and my partner has been putting on so much pressure for me to lose weight. I don't blame him but today he was going on about how he doesn't no what way we are going to go.. it's about me not doing anything about my weight since babe no1 has came. And I said that that was back then this is nowand i cant change what i didnt do back then i can only change ehat happens now..and I didn't realise he felt so strongly about it. I told him I am only goin to get bigger before I ever get smaller as I am now pregnant and not going on a diet right now. I also hate telling him my plans on what I want to do when baby arrives as all I get is.. Yea whatever and eyerolls. I'm finding it so hard.. this past year has been difficult with money also.. Don't no how we survived but we are still here. Suppose I'm just looking for thoughts.. I hate feeling like I'm on a thread and the ball is in his court as to what happens next. Please help.

Self esteem OP. Where is yours? You are allowing 'DP', to have authority over you and you are behaving as if he's in charge.
I'm sorry to say this, but we are treated the way way we allow others to treat us and if you allow another person to have complete authority over you, then that person is very likely to abuse you very badly.
You are being very, very badly abused. And I am so sorry that this is happening to you.
You have to take control. You have to find your inner warrior and get out of this relationship.
If you don't, you will end up even more brow beaten. Even more under his thumb. And even more incapable of being a fully fledged, autonomous individual who doesn't give a shit what the 'DP', thinks, wants or voices his pathetic opinion on. By making you feel insecure and unhappy he's feeding his pathetic little desire to control you.
Give him the finger..
You owe your children a happy mum, not a sad, scared, unhappy one.

The only weight you need to lose OP is this unsupportive idiot of a partner,

Your body is doing the most amazing thing at the moment...it’s growing his baby and all kinds of changes are going on to make that happen.
You’d be better off and happier without this idiot knocking your self esteem right left and centre.

Thank you for your replies.. I think it sounds worse when I write it down.. we are really struggling with money and pressure of another baby.. with his job it's very unpredictable and he hasn't really been providing.. I think that gives his ego a blow also. Would he be blaming me for him feeling like that? I believe that I'm a very strong person and would cope if things really went bad and I have often thought lately are we ment to be? It's really not a nice place to be in at all. He also said today how not nice it is to be getting into bed with someone that you just don't feel attracted to anymore. I hate just giving up on something that once was everything.. do wee maybe try couples therapy?

I can understand the need to get into shape AFTER a pregnancy but not while you are currently pregnant.

The best thing you can do (for your own health and nothing to do with your partner) is to try and not eat junk food or fast food during your pregnancy as thats not going to be good for your baby. Try to eat healthy meals 5 times a week at least.

Once your baby arrives and you are strong, you can join a gym and work out properly but you should not have to think about that for the moment. I would try explaining this to your partner.

Poor 'DP', he has to blame someone of course he does! And he's blaming you isn't he? And telling you how he doesn't feel attracted to you....poor darling that he is.
And whilst you are busy making excuses for him, he's merrily carrying on making you unhappy.
You've landed a corker there OP.

Why on God’s earth was baby #2 planned in the midst of all this? He’s being a dick and is simply using your weight as a stick to beat you with.

Stop trying to placate this dick because you can’t, If it wasn’t your weight it would be something else, pathetic little man.