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Weird... But is he cheating?

37 replies

Whiskeyqueen2457 · 15/01/2019 22:31

I feel stupid typing this but I was just sorting out the washing and there's a pretty large blood stain in the back of DHs Boxers.
Please be gentle with me, I know this makes me seem paranoid but I've been in a relationship with a cheat before and it's left me slightly damaged. The stain doesn't look like it could of erm come out of him so now I'm thinking was he sleeping with someone who was on their period because that's what I first thought when I saw it. Please someone tell me I'm crazy and there's an obvious reason. I've probably not articulated this very well but he'll be home soon and I'm worrying

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thedancingbear · 16/01/2019 07:34

And please don't delay from telling him this whilst you have a 'snoop' (as I'm sure someone will be along to tell you in a minute): this really isn't evidence of infidelity, and you would be doing him a massive disservice by not saying anything.

MashedSpud · 16/01/2019 07:41

He might have had a boil that popped that he feels embarrassed about. Sneak a peek at his bum cheeks.

JohnnyBGood · 16/01/2019 07:52

Where exactly was the stain?

My1stNameIsTaken · 16/01/2019 08:05

Wouldn't a photo help mums to understand better? I'm not insisting, but the period blood doesn't look same as some blood caused by an injury.

snowie01 · 16/01/2019 08:14

Why would he put the boxers in the wash if he had period blood on them from cheating??

If I found blood stained boxers I'd be like omg DP what's this what happened are you ok did you notice?

SparklyMagpie · 16/01/2019 09:12

I'd actually worry about his health first and I'd have asked him

How are you this morning OP ?

bloodyigglepiggle · 16/01/2019 09:15

Ask him. I can't imagine finding that and not asking - I'd be very concerned about his health!

Dirtybadger · 16/01/2019 09:58

My periods last 12-15 days so majority of sex I have is period sex. DP has never got blood on his boxers (I don't think). Let alone the back of them. I can't even figure out how he would have done that. An affair is very very unlikely to be the cause of this.

jessstan2 · 16/01/2019 10:19

Dirtybadger, you should not have periods lasting that long! You have a hormone imbalance, get a referral to a gynaecologist. A short course of meds will put you right.

As for the rest - too much information.

scottishdiem · 16/01/2019 11:56

To be honest the relationship is in a bit of trouble. If your first thoughts are about an affair when you see blood on his underwear instead of concern about a health condition then is there a long term future here?

katykins85 · 16/01/2019 15:42

Yeah I'm another one who thinks you paranoia could be the issue here OP.

labazsisgoingmad · 16/01/2019 17:11

im going to say something when you say unfaithful its assumed you meant female could it be male and hes had anal sex

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