Would a man "mansplain" even if he had a crush/was attracted to you?

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Would a man "mansplain" even if he had a crush/was attracted to you?

Also, as a separate question, would a man "mansplain" to someone who he genuinely respected in the workplace (ie. just the way he is) or only if he perceives you to be a bit "dim/ditzy/stupid" etc.?

Only if he is already a patronising twat, I suppose.

The type of man who mansplains is often a bit socially inept and I think they don't see anything wrong with it. It's not that they think people are dim so much as they like to show off their knowledge. So it may be if they like you they would do it more in a bid to impress you.

Certainly, if he's a bit of a dick. He'd be expecting you to swoon at his superior knowledge. They don't "mansplain" knowing that they're mansplaining and being annoying: they do it because they have unexamined sexist views and wish to propound.

They can’t help doing it, I’m afraid.

Full on mansplainers will mansplain to the most respected person!

My old boss was a mansplainer. No matter what subject you talked about, he'd profess to know more about it, even when talking to a person about their professional qualifications. He was (surprisingly!) quite a nice chap otherwise, but his brass neck and lack of awareness at how silly he sometimes made himself look was astonishing!

Yes and yes.

Definitely yes to both.

Yes but it doesn't help the attraction back the other way.

I think some men like to feel their knowledge is a precious reservoir that others can benefit from whether they like it or not. So there's teaching/coaching (as a student I had a new boyfriend who embarked on teaching me calculus despite this having absolutely zero relevance to my daily life) and there's mansplaining (which it would have been if I'd been a maths student who already had better calculus skills than him). I don't think the fact that he sort of wanted to have sex with me did anything except perhaps to make his desire to flood my brain with calculus information even more overwhelming.

A mansplainer would mansplain to Edison about how to change a lightbulb

Yes and yes.

My husband has just grown his hair slightly from always having it short. He mansplained to me how to wash my own hair because I did shampoo and conditioner in my child's hair together to reduce washing out/screaming time. I think he respects and is attracted to me, so yes. My dad also mansplained to me how to do up a horse's girth. I've been doing that for 28 years, almost daily. Not so sure on that one as pretty sure he doesn't respect me anyway.

OP you fancy this mansplainer, it's plain to see.

I hate the word mansplain, women do the exact same. It makes me cringe when people say it. I think if you are a patronising or condescending person then that's what you are. I doubt they even realise they are doing it and we are all guilty of it

we are all guilty of it

No, we're not!

Mansplaining doesn't mean being a bit condescending. It means going on about stuff as if you're an expert, particularly to women who can reasonably be assumed to know as much, if not considerably more than the mansplainer about the subject!

Not everyone does this. Men are much more likely to do it IME.

Thanks everyone :) Good to know it isn't personal. Can't help but feel as if they only do it to people who they think are incompetent... ridiculous esp when it's me training me for a lot of it haha.