Asking DH to seek talking therapy?

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My DH has approached me again today to tell me he wants to talk about his insecurities and anxiety.
This is fine, I will always listen and reassure him but this is a regular event and his worries are always the same (they focus on how our relationship has changed since the first flourishes and if we're still 'ok')

As said I'm always happy to listen and reassure but this is becoming a pattern now and I want to suggest he seeks advice from a GP as I don't feel I can offer him anything than I already have.

We have a high stress daily life, lots of kids with health issues and we both work full time if that matters.

they focus on how our relationship has changed since the first flourishes and if we're still 'ok')

Not sure what this means?

It means his worries all focus on how when we met we were in the fresh first stages of the relationship, dates, long walks hand in hand, days in bed, constant kisses and cuddles and sweet nothings, now because we have moved out of that stage (many years later) and have things like children, work and life to deal with it's more mundane and he worries that it's a sign we're not happy or as in love.

It's not a GP he needs...it's individual counselling.

The GP may be able to recommend one.

Yes that's what I meant, to go to the Gp and get referred for counselling. I feel so awful that my reassurances aren't enough to make him feel more at ease and I don't know what else to say to him. I can't realistically replicate our relationship all those years ago which seems to be what he craves.

Why not. Seems to me you might be missing what he is actually looking for. You mention that you try to reassure he verbally but mention that the "fresh stages" had dates, hand holding, kisses, cuddling. He might be actually missing physical contact, and not sexual, but just contact. Knowing you love him by physically touching him in a way that does not have to lead up to sex. I know, when I'm doing dishes and my wife comes up behind me and gives me a hug a kisses my neck, I feel like a million dollars. Maybe he's missing something like that.