Hi this is probably long and feel embarrassed even writing it so bear with. I have been in a FWB situation for around 6 years, very casual sometimes not seeing eachother for months but always seem to come back to eachother. We have known of eachother in social circles since I was about 16 and now I am heading towards 30.
He has treated me poorly in the past in terms of ghosting but never in any other way. I did end up with feelings in the first 2 years and went a bit crazy really getting upset when he ignored messages etc, although it was always casual and he made that clear. Around year 4 we didnt speak for a long time (6 months or so) and the feelings went away.
We have been casually seeing eachother again and I am glad that I no longer have feelings for him and really can honestly say I dont want a relationship out of it. So why cant I stop?! Maybe as its easy? I dont even enjoy seeing him so much anymore as its too predictable in pattern but still like his company and care about him in a friends way. I have nothing else going on romantically and get bored I suppose.
I am torn between just carrying on as and when I wish on my terms or just cutting it off now. I do want more and not sure whether to just tell him that I cant do this any more as I want a relationship with someone now (not expecting it from him) or whether to just leave it and not disclose why? Dont really know what advice I'm hoping for but just felt like I really need to write it down somewhere 