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Leap of faith?

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Sugarsnapp · 13/01/2019 16:46

I am at a crossroads with H & utterly conflicted about what to do. He’s not been very nice to me & DDs over the years - shouty temper, silent treatment, name calling & denying things that have been said or done to the extent I started secretly writing then down to refer back to. We’ve been here before & things have gone back again but he didn’t have counselling then.

After a final straw, he’s now had counselling which I haven’t been told much about other than he knows why he’s like that & can stop it happening again but can’t explain how to me.

Do I take the leap of faith that it won’t revert back this time or am I being naive. When I initially questioned him about the counselling he said I was unraveling everything that has been achieved & said he wanted a divorce. He’s now said he blurted that out in frustration & didn’t mean it but that was huge to me. So it’s left me fearful for the future. But equally I don’t want to destroy DDs lives & end up alone & lonely.

Any advice welcome.

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 13/01/2019 16:49

It wouldn't be a leap of faith, it'd be stupid
Don't be stupid

Sugarsnapp · 13/01/2019 16:52

@Shoxfordian do you really think so? I’m so confused I can’t see which way is up 🙁

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 13/01/2019 16:58

Yes I do, its great if he's changed- great for his next relationship but you've put up with so much shit that you should leave him.

He hasn't really changed anyway, you'll always be wondering if he'll go back to his old ways

He's been so emotionally abusive that of course you're confused

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