Ex in law issues

[Pockybot]

I have to see STBX due to the kids & contact

His parents want to look after the kids. Rather than message me directly they are sending messages via him ie he is telling me verbally.

I would prefer they messaged me directly as I am trying to detach from him.

What can I do about this if anything?

His parents see the kids on his time - so no need to engage with him really.

Unless you want to see the parents -

That is how it is at the moment (see the kids on his time)

I did want to see the ex in laws but they haven’t been very supportive about his leaving me and the affair, so in some ways best just to leave it. It’s all broken it feels right now.

You call them and say "ex DH has the DC during [these times]. If you'd like to see them outside of those times then feel free to ask but you do need to speak to me directly. As you can imagine after finding out he was a cheating lying bastard about the affair I'd prefer not to speak to him more than necessary".

The they can choise to behave like adults or not.

Thanks
That is excellent advice