Very upset with my husband

[Tina35]

Any advice i been with my husband for 14 years have four doughters he is 38 and i am 35 till now everything when good now since our summer holiday we had an argument for some keys he asked me for the key i said u hav your thats when ut started 4and half months ago since then after two months he start talking to me now he talks to me but he never have sex or kiss or hug me since 4 and half months he told me i gone out of his ♥️ But he still stays with me sleep same bed eat together but he dosent let me touch him, all now i say hello kiss on his cheek thats all , i do eerything for him because he works full time and i work part time because he is upset dose anybody think he is going to forget and forgive me everytime i ask him why u keeping away he says u see u arguing what should i do because i cry my self everyday i am not happy i love him thank u

This is really hard to follow.

But you didn't speak for 2 months because of some keys?

And now he has told you he doesn't love you anymore, because of this.

Surely there is more to this?

I am not sure what you are trying to say. Is English not your first language? You argues 4 months ago about some keys and now he is shunning you? Is that right?

Boysoundbuses what do u think yes only keys nothing else he is very upseting he comes home after work answer my calls but the only problem after 4.and a half stand that if i as him why he is keeping away he dosent want me to ask him because he dosent want to hav sex why is happning i dont know any idea please

Yes Appollo thats right

Is he possibly having an affair?

I don't think anyone can explain why he's behaving this way except your DH himself.
Do you feel that you could ask him to leave for a week while you both re-evaluate what you want from your marriage? Explain that he is destroying your happiness, ask him if he wants to repair the marriage?

What did you (supposedly) do to upset him exactly?

Apello i dont know for an affair i think sometime may be

We where on holiday we fight over some keys but he asked me for them i said u got urs thats how it started 2 months did not talk to me now he talk but he dosent want to hug kiss or sex with me 4 and half months Sparkyfair thats what it is

Punctuation please 😩

I can't really read your posts but this isn't about keys. He's using this is an an excuse to be a dick/not have sex. I would suggest he is having an affair and is trying to rewrite the narrative making it your fault if you split up.

Gazelda i tried and j still try to talk but everytime i try to talk he says u see u start to arguee just to get away from him in other way he dosent move he stays he eats here i do all house stuff clean irning kids pick up drop off everything plus work kids but there seem not enugh for him i dont know what to do anymore

If he is like this why do you want to stay with him?!

Oh let’s not be twatty about punctuation, it’s clear that English is not Op’s first language isn’t it?

Hammeringinmyhead Yes thats right over some keys do u think he has got someone than which i dont know.

Sorry about my writing but i am lost thats why i dont know what i am doing.

Is hard to seperate with four kids thats why

I think it’s not your fault. It’s all him. He’s emotionally abusing you for whatever reason. Either he was always a shit person or something is going on. Such lack of care for your feelings screams affair to be honest but I’m not there, I don’t know him or you. But from what you’ve written he’s a self absorbed, emotionally controlling jerk.

Its harder to stay with him than to separate with 4 kids. Would you want any of them to have a relationship like yours now?. What do you want to teach them about relationships?.

It isn't about keys. He is using that argument as an excuse to treat you badly so he can tell himself/another women you two don't get on and you are a nagging wife.

OP I think you need to fight fire with fire and if he’s putting himself first, you need to put you and the kids first. He has you on the back foot, unsure of yourself and trying to decide why this is happening and how you can get him back. You can’t control him, only yourself so it’s time to tell him to fuck right off and get out and sleep elsewhere till he can treat you like a wife and the mother of your children. That’s not necessarily about sex, it’s about respect.

😭😭😭😭thanks all very upset

Horrible man treating you in this way. Don’t let him sleep in your bed, put him on the sofa. Tell him he either sorts himself out and starts behaving himself or he can get out. Unacceptable behaviour from him, he is a bully

Thank u everyone for being kind and supportive to me🙏