A family war....need advice desperately!

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Here was my previous thread on this

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3473197-gathering-evidence

I've just been told by my DM that my 2 aunties have contacted the solicitors to get my grandpa's share of the house signed over to them ( he died last year). It states in this letter that because 4 people ( my DM and her siblings) cant all be put on this share. Therefore my 2 aunties will be on there. It then says my DM needs to give consent before the house is sold to protect her share. Now this has come all from the blue, my gran has had no idea this was happening. She has to sign the papers next week (she cant read so realises on the aunties to tell her).
Also been told 1 of my aunties has been taking large cash sums out of my grannys bank!!
My grandpas will has gone missing too so my DM cant look to see whats in it. Apparently loads of my grannys jewellery has disappeared. Including 2 pieces my DM asked my gran that me and my sister could have when she passes for sentimental value. Other things have gone missing of high money value.
To me its not the money i'm concerned about its the morals of pushing my DM out and taking everything they can get their hands on. I feel these are pressuring and financially abusing my gran!
I need to know who to go to with this information to put a stop to all of this!!

Sorry for the typos, im shaking with anger

Police.

Get legal help... Call the solicitors and ask them to hold on. For a while, as for will to be sent to your gran. If no will she gets it all.... Threaten police over missing money.

This is elder abuse, fraud, theft, many other things. It's actually very serious.

police wont do anything unless it came from my gran

Police as quickly as possible

I would also be calling the Age UK advice line on 0800 678 1174 if you have concerns about abuse. Another good set of people to call is Action on Elder Abuse on 080 8808 9141, they are a charity set up to prevent the abuse of vulnerable older adults. The police should also be called here, perhaps you will be able to advocate for your nan here.

This link from them may help you as well:-
www.elderabuse.org.uk/is-someone-else-being-abused

Does your nan also have any sort of adult social services involvement?.

police wont do anything unless it came from my gran

Who told you that?

1. Call Age Concern. Ask what steps to take when you suspect elder abuse.
2. Call the police to say you suspect elder abuse.
3. Call the solicitor to say that an investigation is under way and they are to take no further action until further notice. (They shouldn’t take instructions from you but a decent solicitor will desist until investigation is concluded).

Use Attila’s links and phone numbers.

Jesus this is awful OP, please take the advice on here

ring the police.

You need a solicitor ASAP and call the police

I just googled it and there’s an article on what to do in the independent newspaper. It says

Caroline Abrahams, the charity director at Age UK, said: “We fear that there are still many cases that are not reported, and we would encourage anyone who suspects that an older person is being exploited to contact their social services department or the police straight away.”

So police and social services. Also call the solicitor dealing with the house to make sure they know and then you’re going to need to hire your own solicitor

Ok thank you. I'll give age concern a ring today. Even though my gran has mental capacity and can make decisions I feel they are exploting her

Indeed - they are exploiting the fact that she can't read, so is vulnerable and depending on their honesty. Protect her!

Sorry name changed. Spoke to DM today. She's burying her head in the sand. Doesn't want to challenge anything, doesn't want to confront them or do anything. Told me it's none of my business. So now there's nothing I can do because if I get involved I'll then fall out with DM

Bump

You need to protect your Gran though. You can make a safeguarding referral to social services and they will investigate if your Gran is being financially abused. And contact the solicitor and raise your concerns direct / ask for a copy of will - they have a code of conduct they have to act under. Does your Gran have mental capacity? Is your Grans right to live in the property protected or can these aunties sell the house from beneath her? You can’t ignore this

I think I've gotten through to DM. She's going to speak to my gran to get the transfer of shares postponed and ordered a duplicate will so my DM can see what's in it

Have you sought legal advice OP ?

You can contact social services they have an elderly department that deal with stuff like this with your gran not being able to read they will class her as vulnerable