Feeling quite emotional over imminent break up

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Me and my partner have decided that it would be best for us to split up. We’re always falling out and he has done some horrible things in the past that I still can’t forgive him for. He also has a drinking problem which I can’t cope with anymore. So enough is enough.

Despite all of this, I am so sad that it has come to this and soon I will be on my own. When we get on we get on great and we have had so many happy times together as a couple and as a family. But for my own mental health and happiness I can’t put up with the bad things anymore.

I’m scared, nervous, RELIEVED and excited all rolled in to one. I’m worried about my children as well. He’s just putting money together for his own place and in a matter of weeks he won’t be living here anymore. It feels weird, but it’s definitely for the best...

So sorry to hear but your future awaits you

It does It’s going to be great!

If you're already feeling 50-50 happy-sad right at the start of the break-up, that's a good sign as time will always make it seem easier and better with each day.

Hi fun, I don't have advice, but wanted to offer support as I know from experience living with someone with a drinking problem is not a good position to be in. I think the fact it is a joint decision and he is getting money together to move is really good, as often I read about people refusing to leave and causing havoc.

Totally understand all your conflicting emotions.

If you are falling out all the time this isn't good for your kids to see, and so ultimately it will be better eventually after the inital upheaval, for them to see you calmer and happier.

It will be difficult emotionally and you will have good and bad days, but things will get better and you will be ok. It sounds like you will be able to be amicable for your kids with a bit of luck.

Sending you strength and

Sorry to read your current situation I grew up in a home where my father drank and was aggressive as a child right through to leaving home at 21 to escape the unhappy environment and my mother left him to. Now divorced myself but with adults life is better we feel sad for the person we fell in love with but if he is making you unhappy then saying goodbye is best choice long term and your children will adapt once they see mummy and daddy not unhappy anymore . My mum remained married till me and my brothers were adults and all left the family home I wished she would have left when we were younger. Remain positive get support and I hope 2019 gets better once the storm has passed for you and your children.