How do you get the balance right?

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I'm sat here feeling totally overwhelmed and I'm not sure of the feeling a tight chest, tearful and just exhausted.

I'm worried I'm having some kind of breakdown and it appears to be over the most minor thing.

So I've been out all afternoon doing something relaxing and lovely and left the house in a bit Of a normal Saturday mess, clothes piles, messy kitchen, bathroom needs a clean and it's 5pm so now tea needs cooking and thinking about.

Upshot is DH has spent the entire time I was out doing his own thing outside ignoring the ds and I've walked back into a total mess even more crumbs from lunch, dog fluff etc..

And I just feel like getting my keys and going out again.

DH is normally ok he gets on with stuff without me having to nag but this has just wiped out all of my relaxing afternoon and I just give up.

I have no energy to do the bathroom the food anything and I want to cry.

I'm a bit worried I might be depressed or something odd going on as I feel so breathless and headrush like??

Help? Has anyone had this...our marriage is perry rubbish anyhow but this is just one of those moments.

Thanks for listing I'm just not sure what to tackle first?

Sorry mean to say he's just asked me what's wrong and I simply can't articulate to him what's wrong.

Why is it "rubbish"? You mention that he normally does housework so I'm assuming it can't be that. Could you elaborate?

To get through tonight, order a takeaway instead of cooking and just tidy up the room you'll be sitting in. Leave the cleaning until tomorrow (make sure OH does his share, DS too if old enough).

The only thing you need to do right now is tell him you’re utterly overwhelmed and can’t cope. And you need him to help you either by doing the full list of jobs you have in your head or by working with you on them till they are all done. Write them out and tick them off either together or with you in bed with a cup of tea.

Sometimes everyone expects far too much of us and we break.

@SuperSuperSuper rubbish as in 17 years, lack of emotional support and cross communication, bickering.. we have good and bad days. No sex for over 9 months due to a medical issue I have, resentments etc.. we talk lots and are good friends but have slipped into just that at the moment.

But 2 years ago I had a big moment like today as I also run my own business and just felt totally overwhelmed and he changed and started helping more.. today just feels like I'm right back to that time period.