Am I suppose to feel sad that DP has walked out

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Just that really. Ds is 7 not dp's Dd is 7 months and is dp's.
Recently DS is being vile, really vile typical 7 year old testing boundaries and attitude laughing in DP face telling lies anyway dp got up this morning acting like a child refuses to speak to ds and then starts bickering with him. I've totally had enough.

He's never here constantly at work, comes in at 5pm and it's constant bickering and tantrums from him soon as he is home. He apparently had an accident at work causing damage to someone else's car which apparently cost him £550 so his wages this week apparently had to pay for this so in other words he's told me a massive lie to keep his wages because he planned to walk out today. He has a massive gambling problem. Owes me over 1k which isn't alot to most but to me it's a months money. He isn't loving. Demands sex. Calls me a fat cow.

He walks out and expects me to feel sad ?!? I don't I feel relieved if anything. Has anyone else ever experienced this!? Happy the other half has gone?

Ranting

Sorry x

Absolutely. Mine left, I had the locks changed within the hour and I remember locking the door, sitting on the sofa with my 12 week old baby and feeling euphoric and a massive sense of relief.

Unfortunately because you have a child with him you can’t be completely rid of him more’s the pity.
How long were you together?

Same .
I did a happy dance when mine left .
Remained single with two DD’s and we’ve had a lovely little life just the 3 of us.
Don’t put up with his bullshit -let him go

God bolt the door behind him! He just put the good in goodbye...take it!!

Sounds an absolute arsehole. What a stroke of luck!

I imagine all you can feel is a massive sense of relief!

You won't know anywhere near the truth of the extent of his gambling. The £1k he owes you will be the tip of the iceberg.

You'll need some form of contact if he wants to be part of his daughters life.

Good riddance!

He’ll likely turn up again soon. Under no circumstances should you take him back. What are your living arrangements? Whose house is it?

So happy when the ex left. I thought he was bluffing.

Fingers crossed for you! X

My rented house thank heavens above so I'm safe in here. I guess he will want contact with DD and he can do that if he wants it however I'm really not happy with him having her alone until she is older she's only 7 months albino and visually impared and breastfed anyway shall cross that bridge when we come to it! I'm just so relieved he's buggered off like you all say he will most deffo be back but he ain't stepping foot in this house no damn way. We were only together a short time before we got pregnant as soon as I was pregnant red flags popped up all over the place. Now to tackle ds behaviour and lies.

The house feels calmer already !!

You sound great - really competent and assertive.
It’s your house...fantastic!

Box up anything belonging to him and take it to his mum’s. Ask the landlord if you can change the locks.

Hopefully you will find that your sons behaviour improves now that the bastard has gone.
Put your children first.

Calls you a fat cow and demands sex? Wow. What an absolute charmer. He’d be gone for that reason alone let alone all the other stuff. Keep that door locked. It’s your lucky day. Yay he’s gone! Put that song on “celebration” by kool and the gang and dance around the house.

I’m wondering if we should start a mumsnet tradition actually that everytime somebody manages to get rid of a useless fecker we all play “celebration” by kool and the gang in solidarity

My nearly 7 yr old is totally the same needs strong boundaries and lots of love too with the 7 month old probably taking up lots of your time. Good riddance to the DP he sounds a charmer.

Just change the locks and give the landlord keys immediately. Say you had yours stolen. This is what I did (it was true btw)

Bless you
I think you will only be on the up from here. I felt massive relief once my abusing ex left. Be prepared to feel up and down for a bit, emotions can go all over the place but ultimately you know already this is better.
Wouldn’t be at all surprised if your DS’s behaviour improves now he has gone. Kids are so aware of tension and stress

Hey hanging slightly unrelated but if you would like some support on the Albinism front are you a member of the Facebook group Albinism matters we are a very friendly bunch of parents and may help you for any support. Wishing you all the best 😀

No, you're not supposed to feel sad about an idiot like that walking out. Throwing a party to celebrate is what I'd be doing!

The list of things you should be doing includes:

Eating cake
Doing a victory dance
Punching the air
Shoving his stuff in boxes/bin liners
Changing the locks
Lying on the sofa and randomly giggling

I've had the BEST day. House was calm. Dc were both happy. Eaten shit load of food. danced like a nob all around the house. And now am packing his shit up.

Thanks you guys I FEEL AMAZING xxxxx

Glad you're so happy! Long may your peace last

And you are amazing x

Good for you, op, gotta love when a woman kicks ass!! (Dont forget to change the locks btw)