Partner using anonymous chat room

[cantbelievethis567]

Hi, I never thought I'd be writing this.

Tonight I found out my DP of 4 years is using an online anonymous chat site and I just don't know what to think.

I found out as he had accidentally taken a screenshot of his chatboard on it on an incognito tab.
The chats were things like "bi girls" "London" "fetishes" "thicc girls" and I know there were more just not in the screenshot. He also had 7 private chats I couldn't see.

So I logged on to it on his phone and everything was gone. I assume he deletes it after using it each time just in case.

He admitted he had a few fetishes which aren't that norm but not shocking so not sure what to think. He said he originally got it to anonymously discuss our relationship issues (don't believe this).

He says that none of the chats have been very personal and always discussing this fetish. Never pics.

I don't know what to think. I feel so deceived. He really doesn't think it's cheating especially as it's anonymous.

OMG ..Just posted something similar.And , I get you absolutey.It is the secrecy, lies and deceit that is the problem.
He SAYS he just chats but how the hell can you trust anything he says? About anything ?What drives these guys?

I don't know about the deleting thing. He said it was because he didn't plan to use it again and going by the look of it he hadn't deleted anything before.

The deleting thing doesn't really worry me as he was on there in the first place and never expected me to find out.

I don't think he'd arrange to hook up with people there as it defies the point of being anonymous. He would just go on a dating site. Plus I know his every move and I know where he is and where he will be so I think that would put him off ever meeting with someone. I don't know, perhaps I'm naive.

Thing is though, at the end of the day, do 'you' see this as the same as mumsnet, I would not but everyone is different