Stroking thigh - friendly/flirty/more?

[allgoneawol]

I know this may be a bit of a strange question but just trying to get my head around something.

Say a man touches a woman's leg (more than just a pat or quick touch, like holding and stroking thigh) and they're not in a relationship with each other would you always consider that flirty or could it just be friendly and innocent?

If there was drink involved would you think it was a come on or just being touchy feely when drunk?

If your DH did this to another woman when drunk how would you feel? If there was no other history with the woman in question

It's a pass. My ex's best friend stroked my thigh while drunk. I was horrified. He may have been drinking, but he knew what he was doing.
A quick touch, or pat, I wouldn't like, and it's not respecting boundaries, but a stroke means only one thing, and one thing only.

It’s a pass. I can’t think of any other reason and I wouldn’t be at all happy.
Is this an isolated incident?

A stroke is definitely a sexually charged move. A brief, friendly/brotherly pat is still weird but could be maybe explained away. Was the stroke unwanted? Stroking up the thighs is sexually exciting, it's, for me at least, something that is that is done as a prelude to more.

Total sex move.

Agree sexual motive behind any stroking - can't be misread

Stop questioning yourself

Thigh stroking is clear...implying hoped-for or familiar sexual intimacy

I'd be livid. Would he had done it to another man(assuming he is straight). It's a flirtatious move.

‘Holding and stroking’ the thigh is an intimate touch. Sober or drunk, makes no difference. Address this now.

I'm going to disagree and say if you saw it, just use your judgment. You probably got a feel for it at the time, right?

If the person in question was drunk and quite deeply engrossed in (not flirty) conversation I can see it not being a pass (potentially). In the same way I can imagine a straight bloke doing exactly that to another bloke. But it would be quite context specific and my presumption would be still "not good" in most cases. And I guess I am talking more "a prolonged touch" rather than stroking which is just plain sexual.

DB, you bent yourself completely in two there and still managed to not be able to excuse this guy

Quite.

I can see in my head a scenario of someone touching my leg (not just briefly) in a pub or similar, without it being sexual. But not stroking.

I don't think that stroking someone's thigh could ever be 'innocent and friendly' sorry.

How would you feel OP if a drunken man you didn't know stroked your thigh? Just friendly? He would be getting a slap round the chops from most people!

If a man touched my leg and it wasn't invited, I wouldn't be wasting my time 'interpreting' the signal. I'd be asking him what he was doing.

I would generally say it is not innocent but tbf I have been in a situation with close friends where I have left my hand on their leg or theirs on mine while talking and it was totally not a pass! Maybe if you are really drunk in a loud busy bar and are jammed next to each other?

Agree though stroking is a bit more “active” rather than just leaving your hand there which is a bit more passive...

ok thank you, you've confirmed what I thought

So, what now ?

Got love a good stroke

If its not flirty and trying it in with someone,and was just part of being more expressive and friendly when drunk, then they would do it to everyone they talked to when drunk, man or woman, young or old etc

My husband's life wouldn't be worth living if he stroked another woman's thigh, drunk or not.