Would you be put off dating a man whose friends are mostly female?

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I'm just asking out of curiosity more than anything else.
I am male, but have always connected much better with women as friends and felt out of place among male friendship groups. With a few exceptions, my friends are mostly female.
I was recently having a conversation with one of my friends about relationships and sexuality (have had one boyfriend in the past but still figuring things out), and I told her that if I ever have a girlfriend, I would hope that she (meaning the girlfriend) would understand that most of my friends are women. My friend said that if she were in that girlfriend's position, she wouldn't be able to help but feel very insecure about this. Just curious about others' thoughts. Thanks in advance.

Last time I met one of these, he held it up like a badge of honor that was supposed to make me trust him more.

As it turned out, he was a real asshole of a man who was pretty much only friends with women because women are more forgiving and more socialized to just wave away red flags and bad behavior. I suspect a male friend would have decked him for some of the things he said during "friendly discussions."

If he had all female friends it would raise eyebrows, just as eyebrows are raised when I come across women who don't have a single female friend.

It would depend on the bloke, and whether these opposite sex friendships had a flirty, ersatz relationship type feel or not. As a straight woman, i’ve had a large of friendships with men, but there sometimes has been a level of wistfulness on one side or the other for some of these. So i’d maybe have questions about that

DP has lots of female friends. Some of them are even exes. His best friend is female. But pretty much all of his friends, male and female, are lovely and that’s what I go by. You can tell a lot about a man by the company he keeps.

No, wouldn’t bother me if they were mostly female, I.e. there’s a balance between both sexes but it tends to weigh a bit more towards women. I’d say I’m fairly 50/50 overall with my genuine close friendships, but I’d say my more ‘pally’ friendships tend to be more with men due to an interest of mine that’s very male dominated that I often meet friends through.

What matters is how the guy acts with his friends: is he open? Excited to introduce me? Does he have appropriate boundaries (for example acting with his female friends the same way he would a guy, so no texting all day every day for example or meeting up several times per week, just stuff that wouldn’t happen between guys I find)? Do his female friends seem glad he’s met someone and genuinely want to get to know me and include me or at least be polite? Does he often (not always!) invite me along, especially when he’s hanging out with a woman I’ve not met?

There’s a huge difference between a man like that and a guy who keeps a close harem of women who either he wants to bang or knows she wants to bang him, holds onto exes tightly, likes to play the saviour or play pseudo boyfriend, and so forth.

My OH has female friends and they’re lovely, amazing, smart funny women, it shows he has good taste in people and that he must be alright too if they love him so much! We went to visit a few of them for a weekend recently, had booked a hotel and annoyingly I got a migraine so I went back to the hotel and insisted he stay and hang with them (not seem them in a while due to distance and it was a big weekend to catch up), one of them lived with four other women in a house share so I left him to play board games and drink all night with seven women 😂 can honestly say i felt nothing but pleased at least he would get to have a great night, and it was nice to see him again when he came back early hours to me.

On the other hand there’s been the odd woman I’ve had a bad gut feeling about and not been happy with him seeing her and he’s respected that... but that’s the total anomaly. And was more to do with her than him. You get a feel for people imo and as long as your OH treats you as his partner and is honest and respectful and genuine, he can have as many female friends as he wishes and it’s great.

My DH has a lot of female friends (and male ones too), and when we got together it was something I took as a good sign that he sees women as normal human beings. His best friend is a lovely woman -- she was his 'Best Mate' at our wedding! The fact he is such a good friend is one of his really attractive points.

Depends on the women. My DH had lots of female friends when we met. One I disliked on sight and sure enough she developed "feelings" as soon as we got serious. It can be such an awkward dynamic.

I’m male and straight . My oldest friend is a female. We
Met when we were 6 years old. We are 39 this year. I have quite a few female friends. More female friends than male friends. I don’t like football or stuff like that. I’m into animals and the countryside. I love cooking.
I’m married and my wife has always put up with my female friends. She’s always made welcome when they have visited. But I do try and keep boundaries with them. But sometimes it’s hard. It’s hard for me not to say things to them about my relationship. It’s different when it’s two bloke talking about their wives. I talk about my kids to them. But I try and keep things between my wife and I separate from them.
I can understand that a lot of
Women would find it hard for their partner to be spending time with other women in social situations.

My assumption is that any man who PRIDES himself on only spending time with women is a Nice Guy and probably a secret misogynist and all the men commenting about how they prefer "rom coms" and hate "lager louts" just confirms that to me.

My DPs friends are almost entirely women. It doesn't bother me and never has - he finds it easier to make friends with them etc. I've met them all and they are all lovely.