I stupidly moved with DH job over a year ago to a different country in the UK. We have two young children. My husband is emotionally abusive and manipulative (which is how he coerced me to come with him even though I did not want to), though not illegally so. I could not make case of coercive control, though I feel controlled by him, and his behaviour is worse since we came here. My husband will not tolerate me leaving him.
I have a property in the country of the UK we used to live and asked the WA solicitor about what would happen if I wanted to go back. She said he could make an application to stop me taking the children. SHe said if I took the children without telling him it would look bad in a custody case. She said the courts may decide the children are better off where they are now than being uprooted. She also said for more advice I should speak to WA in the country I wanted to move to, as if I were living there, that country's rules would apply. But when I phoned them they said she was wrong and I need to speak to a solicitor in my current country.
But anyway, I guess the point is I am fucked. I can't go back and rebuild my life, with the job I wanted for myself (which doesn't exist here), and which it took my whole life to find my passion, or with my existing friends and community. I don't see the point of leaving my husband to stay in this country. THere's nothing for me here and I'd just be poorer, my kids would be poorer, and life would be harder.
I can't see anything for me than just being trapped. I already go to bed every night and hope i don't wake up. I don't feel able to go on, but I don't feel able to end things either because of the children. I feel utterly hopeless.