I'm not sure how I feel about my parter/father of new baby

[Siriusmoz]

My baby will be 8 weeks this Sunday and my partner has been absolutely amazing. He stayed with me for two weeks in hospital whilst our daughter was in NICU. He didn't leave me alone for one day. He sold his old car and bought a cheaper one so he didn't have monthly payments. He also sold his gaming pc to buy me a ring. Which he wanted to propose with but I said 1 month was too soon. I didn't feel like I knew him.

The thing is we've only been together a year now ans we didn't plan on becoming pregnant. I didn't even know until 16 weeks.
We talked at the time about abortion or adoption as I didn't feel ready and I wasn't sure how I felt about him, having not long left a 4 year relationship.

But I couldn't go through with an abortion.
Some people can, but I really couldn't.

My daughter is the most beautiful little thing and I want what's best for her but I just sort of feel emotionless towards my partner.

Maybe because I've been pregnant for 10 months of our year together I just haven't got a physical attraction to him.

I just don't want to be unhappy and I don't want my feelings to impact our daughter. I don't want us to be a couple that argues in front of her because I'm not happy.

Don't get me wrong there are times when in feel attracted to him (he's a good looking guy), but I just don't feel as happy or as in love as I did with my last relationship.

Now I don't want my ex back, he cheated on me and there's no going back but I'm just so confused to be honest.

Do hormones effect this

I think you havent had time to get to know each other before you became pregnant. I think its too early to know how you really will feel longer term. My partner and i had a baby before really knowing whether we would work out (planned baby but complex story) and our DS is now 11 and we’ve lived together happily for 6 years. I’d give it time he sounds a good guy but if you continue to feel unhappy you will need to leave but give it a chance first good luck and congratulations

Too many hormones the few months after baby is born. Don't make any rash decisions. The feelings are normal even in long term relationships.

Don't make any rash decisions. He sounds like he's really stepped up and is a massive support. This counts for a lot.

You've only just had a baby, OP - your hormones are all over the shop - I would take your time and don't make any decisions right now.

It may be that he isn't the right man for you in the long run. Or it may be that as you settle into motherhood and things return to normal physically, your feelings for him grow warmer again. i think it's quite normal to lose physical attraction and even sometimes feel quite emotionally distant from your partner when you've just had a baby. Just see how things go for a bit.