I’m too embarrassed to talk to friends about this. I just need to vent.
I have an eight week old baby with my husband. Today he went out for after work drinks, but hadn’t let me know. I’d sent him a nice message to ask where he was when he wasn’t home an hour later than usual. He got home later in the evening.
When he got home he was tipsy - we ended up arguing about it (he has often drunk too much in the past and I told him he needs to be more responsible). I said it should be a curtesy to let me know he wouldn’t be home until later (I was v tired having been up with the baby the night before and I am feeling under the weather).
I put the baby down and he said I had done it too quickly (I hadn’t, he was just tipsy and not fully with it). He came over and stood above me with a raised hand and told me if I did that again he’d beat me. He said some unkind things about how he’s paid for everything (I can’t afford to as I’m on maternity pay!!). He owns the house and also told me it’s his house and I can get out (this was after I said I couldn’t even look at him after he had raised his hand).
He’s never hit me before or made a threat like that. He seemed a little sorry afterwards as he asked me several times if there’s anything he could get me (I was quite tearful).
I don’t want my baby to be around this. I want better for both of us. He shows me no respect and I don’t want my boy to think that’s how you treat someone.
I have no family nearby and I don’t know what to do. He’d never actually hurt me, but can occasionally be emotionally abusive. I’m so tired.