Am I failing?

[HollyLM]

About to leave a horrible relationship (it's his house) I'm 30 almost 31 and just been made redundant. My DD is almost 4. This means that I would HAVE to go home until I secure another job and then 'somehow' find a home of our own.

Am I failing my daughter by going back home?

Should I panic that time is running out to be happy and have more children with a decent guy?

Feeling so low, full of anxiety and feeling like I've f**k'd up staying with this guy for so long!

Ladies... help me! x

You’re not failing. It sounds like anxiety may be doing the talking for you? Redundancy and relationship breakdowns are two stressful things to go through, let alone together.

Look at the positives

• freedom from a man who hasn’t treat you well
• a chance for a fresh start for you and your daughter (she’s young, she’ll adapt)
• new career/job - opportunities to meet new colleagues/Make new friends
• single so that (in time, when you’re ready) you’re available should Mr Right present himself

In the meantime what about doing something like the Freedom Project if the relationship was horrible and has worn you down xx

Onwards and Upwards Holly x

...anyone?

I did it.

Not going to lie. It wasn't a bed of roses and I felt shit.

But a couple of years later I have my own home and everything great. Especially cause he is there and never been there.

It was definitely worth it in the end.

Can you not see the response from Fonduefrolics ?

You’re not failing. You’re teaching your daughter it’s ok to leave a toxic relationship.

Be brave, you can do this and you’ll be so much happier in future because of it x

You are not failing.

You are removing yourself and your daughter from a horrible relationship. That is a WIN.

I've been made redundant twice and both times gone on to better jobs. You will be fine. There is no shame in going home.

I had to move back in with my Mum a few years ago (when I was 40 FFS) after a humiliating break-up and it was exactly what I needed to get back on my feet. She gave me a bit of tough love so I wouldn't sit around wallowing and encouraged me to find work. I had a job within a month.

I"m now in my own place and loving it. And I'm in a new relationship after 3 years of being very happily single.

If I can do it, you can do it. Be proud, hold your head up high, give your daughter a kiss and march off into the future together.