Right this might be another way of looking at it....
You leave your boring old drudge of a wife as she has had your children kept your lives all running smoothly , she’s good at that sort of stuff I suppose but you no longer fancy her as your head turner is hot to trot after all she hasn’t washed your skiddy pants and listened to your whinging about how boring life can be !
Next split all assets and all the other stuff you have BOTH worked hard for and divide 50/50 if you can afford it !
Right that’s the misery and boring stuff sorted, now go and be happy with hot head turner because it’s fresh, exciting and new she is everything the Women you married isn’t and it feels the right choice.
Fast forward 2/3 years if your lucky! and now the sex isn’t so regular and she has some bloody awful habits and shit that you never took into consideration, your feelings are changing.
this isn’t working out how you expected it too, but your that much further into your 40’s possibly nearer 50 and you haven’t got a lot left to offer the next victim to make you realise your feelings for head turner are not what you thought they were in the beginning when you threw it all away for her.
You start to realise that your ex wife was a good women and you have so much shared history that now your in your late 40’s you can’t build that sort of life again with another woman and you might even realise you still love your ex wife !
Too Late !
Meanwhile ex wife has got over the heartbreak, rejection and shit storm she was thrown into and is so much happier in her life, she looks so happy chilled and is really enjoying being her own boss.
She has now met a new man and he has made her feel attractive, sexy, and important again she is glowing as now she has freedom from the drudgery of her old married life as the children are with dad and head turner for the weekend and she is really enjoying a sexy hot weekend away. She finally realised that everything she went through was actually worth it even though it didn’t feel like it at the time, but the ex husband has done her a huge favour.
So you trot off with head turner and start your relationship with this woman who knows your married but she is prepared to throw that bomb in your wife’s life as quite honestly she wants what she wants and so do you so why give a shit it will be all worth it eh.
Ex wife and new man start their relationship on equal footing and no one gets hurt as they start their happy ever after as divorced singles.
So you just crack on and leave then you will have everything your poor current wife can’t provide.
I’ve been there it’s shit think long and hard before you leap as you might not realise it now as it all seems exciting and new but you could possibly be making a huge mistake!!