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Why am I suddenly sad?

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Cath2907 · 10/01/2019 10:53

I asked my STBXH to leave in October. We'd been struggling for a long time and I was so frustrated and angry with him just leaving everything to me. He was fed up of living with us just as I was fed up of living with him. At first I was shocked, numb, sad, angry. As time has gone on I've really started enjoying living with just DD again. I've pushed the divorce and our Nisi goes before court next week. We are selling the house and DD and I have found a new place to move to. STBXH was back staying with us last weekend due to an issue with his accommodation. He stayed in the spare room and his presence drove me nuts. He left on Monday and it was such a relief.

Today I woke up feeling sad. Sad that it is all over, sad for him. I don't think I am regretting the soon to be divorce I just feel sad. I just don't know why (and wish it would stop!)

OP posts:
FortunesFave · 10/01/2019 11:19

You need something to look forward to. All the change is taking it out of you and him staying, set you back a bit.

Can you think of anything you could plan that would give you a focus?

Blobby10 · 10/01/2019 11:38

When I went through my divorce, I remember feeling very similar and someone said "You are grieving, not only for the relationship which you had, but also for what might have been".

It suddenly made a lot of sense and putting into that 'category' made it easier to understand and deal with

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