Still not found anyone

[thelostone1]

Had two serious relationships in my twenties. Since 27 nothing else. Nearly 7 years later!

I’ve dated, loads. About one date a week.

I’ve joined clubs, go out networking. I don’t go to bars as I’ve done all that and it doesn’t really interest me.

All I want is a family and I feel like it is passive me by. Are some people meant to be alone?

It seems to happen so easily for people...even people who break up find someone else within a few months and it’s all serious again.

Do you often fancy men you date and want things to go further and are rejected? Do you have many 2nd dates? Have you had any short relationships in between?

Primarily what I'm getting at is are you being rejected or are you mostly the rejector? You're clearly meeting enough people generally.

I’ve had short relationships. I usually reject people i suppose although that said I’m yet to meet someone on the same page as me wanting to settle down. That’s the main thing on my agenda. A lot of men I meet are very into their travels etc and it just makes me lose interest. They are always keen to meet though.

Guess I’ve not had that spark with anybody.

How do you "select" men? If you're meeting loads of men (over a long period) and yet very few wants to settle down, then there's something going wrong with your selection process.

I realise it sounds a bit like you're screening people for army intake but it is a bit of a waste dating loads of guys for 1-2-3 dates if they're not interested in what you want and screening them out might be possible.

I'm assuming you've done OLD as you've been having so many dates?

What are your normal criteria/exclusion criteria?

All I want is a family

IMHO, that is your problem. How about wanting a fun, loving relationship that may then become a family situation.

It sounds like you're just choosing them for breeding stock.