Quick poll - would you rather be with

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1. a well paid professional who you knew had cheated on you in the past

or

2. a low paid worker who you had 100% trust in being faithful?

Two attributes making a recurrent appearance in threads lately, wondering which would be more important to the majority (is a bit personal to me atm, and unfortunately, we don't always get what we want - or deserve!)

Loyalty without a doubt

Loyalty. But I'm financially secure so it's easy for me to say that.

2 all day long!

Loyalty because I don’t want to rely on someone else to for financial security.

I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who was unfaithful, no matter how much they earn.

Being brutally honest. Neither but, definitely not 1

Ignore the random to in my post

Trust and loyalty are the 2 main things I look for in a person.
So No. 2 - but cheating is a complete deal-breaker for me anyway so I wouldn't even consider No. 1

Loyalty! I am lucky to have married a poor loyal man who is now gradually making his fortune. (I'm a teacher so obv if we're going to be rich it won't be through me 😂)

I trust him completely.

Number 2. But only if I loved them also. I wouldn’t be with somebody just because I knew they wouldn’t cheat on me.

Option 2.

Think this poll might be a bit simplistic though - if you're asking which type of person you would embark on a relationship knowing all the facts at the start then I think most people would choose option 2.

I would guess a lot of the posters you see putting up with the cheating well paid professional will have built their life around them before they knew about the cheating (or naively thought they could love them into changing) so leaving might mean moving area, taking kids out of their schools, trying to re-enter the workforce after being a SAHM etc. It's not a choice they'd consciously prefer to make.

Why is this even a question??

Every women deserves someone who is hard-working, treats his women like gold and will never betray her. Good genuine men do exist and anyone who settles for option 1 or option 2 need to realise their true potential and self worth!

2

Ioyalty every time. Can earn my own money

Why is this even a question??

I guess it's a q because of what Oops was talking about. No way would I start a relationship with a known cheat, but i can see a circumstance in which someone ends up as an older SAHM with no income or career prospects anymore, with a partner who cheated in the past but now professes to be faithful. So I guess it comes down to whether you can trust that or not, IYSWIM?

How is option 2 "settling", to a PP. Not everyone can be paid the average or a good wage. Some people earn shit money. Doesn't mean they don't work hard or reflect badly on the worker at all

I'm not "worth" more than a bloke just because I earn more. And I ain't worth less if I earn less!

No one is going to say 1, it isn't really even an option.

Loyalty. Always

" treats his women like gold"

Interested in this. Wouldn't you prefer to be treated as an equal?

I'm with @hellsbellsmelons all the way.

Deal breaker for me also so number 2 no question.

Money isn't a deal breaker for me because I am financially responsible for myself. Always have been always will be. I have my own place and pay my own bills. If I'm skint I'm skint, I never have and never would financially rely on a man so no way would I go for 1. I'm not sure I would go for number 2 either but not because he is a low earner. Just because you haven't mentioned other things that are important to me.
But that being said I could never be with someone I don't trust, been there done that (not in a cheating way but in other ways. But trust is trust Right) and it drives you insane.
So if it's a straight up choice between 1 and 2 it would be number 2. If I can consider other factors then neither. I'd rather be on my own.

I'm also financially independent, which might make the decision easier (though maybe it has no bearing to most women).

2. if I was allowed to do my own thing. I could find compensations if I had time and money. I'm happiest left to my own devices so as long as he made few demands I suspect I could ignore his indiscretions. But I'd expect a lot of compensations, not least the time to pursue my interests.

3. well, I'm happy with this. DH is not wealthy, but he's gorgeous, and he loves me, and I've never had reason to question his loyalty. He makes me happy and puts me first. He buys my lovely thoughtful gifts but I'm time poor. Time is a luxury and the thing I most crave.

Perhaps I'm just easily pleased, or rather I try to make the best of any situation.

1. first obviously. I'm tired and see......too little time

Whichever one I loved.

Lots of people choose number one. I'd say more women reconcile with a cheating husband than actually divorce them.