I've been with my husband for nearly 6 years, married for 1. We both have 10 year old daughters from previous relationships and had just had a baby together-our son is now 9 weeks old.
The first two weeks of our sons life he was good-changing nappies, playing with him, helping lots. Since he's been back at work things have changed drastically. He works 8hrs a day, finishes at 3pm. He does not have what I'd call a highly stressful job.
He cooks tea but does nothing else around the house. He hardly ever changes DS nappies. I go to gym 2x a week and leave DH with DS but DH has started to be unhappy about this as DS can be difficult to settle. When the baby cries he gets handed to me.
I literally have to ask him to help with DS when I need the toilet etc, he won't just come to him and pick him up to give me some time (DS is a demanding baby, likes being held in arms and otherwise cries).
Worryingly DH has also started drinking most nights, rarely having nights when he doesn't drink. He doesn't drink a lot but still-we would only have a drink over weekends mainly before DS was born. I've told him it's not ok to drink daily but he's taken no notice. This just makes me angry.
Over the past couple of days I've been very tearful and emotional as I feel I don't love him anymore. I don't want to have sex with him either. I think it's because I'm resentful my life has changed a lot since the baby but his really hasn't. My resentfulness is more powerful than love. If we had a 'date night' out without the baby just us 2 I think things would be different once we've spoken etc but it's not going to be possible for many months as our baby is too young and fussy to be left with anyone yet.
I don't want to leave my DH as I believe the love is still there but resentfulness is a more powerful emotion.
Anyone else's relationship has been affected negatively by a baby? Have you come out the other end? Do things improve? When?