Hello all.
Just wondered if anyone had any advice. I want to do the right thing by this lovely man, but having left an emotionally abusive marriage previously after years of gaslighting and a narcissistic Mother i dont really trust my own judgement.
I was left homeless after my ex hideous financial decisions, i had been with my new partner just under a year. Myself and 12 year old moved in with him temporarily with him bearing all costs. He has been nothing short of fantastic. I got a lovely council home in a fab area about 6 months ago but in that time we have grown a lot closer and are now approaching 2 years together and my daughter adores him.
He is keen for us to live together and i would like that too. He has a beautiful home in the country with mortgage all paid off.
He has 4 adult kids although he is still relatively young and understandably he wants to make sure they have some inheritance and he also wants me looked after.
I however am scared, I earn a very good living and as finances sort themselves out i am now earning more than him as he is approaching retirement age.
I am not in a position to buy anything singularly or jointly just at the moment.
I also want to eventually be able to leave something for my daughter and to feel happy and secure going into my 50's.
i dont want to find myself in a situation where worst case happens and i find myself thrown out of my home when his kids want to sell. I cant see the wood from the trees and how we can move on together. How we can live together.
I dont want to give up my flat to move in with him without any security, purely because of what i have been through so recently.
Has anyone else ever navigated such a situation or can offer advice?
I should add that i completely agree his children should inherit and he is a fantastic fair and kind and loving man and all this aside i would live with or marry him in a heartbeat. (my divorce is ongoing and painful and difficult so not an option at the mo)
Thanks in advance.