I was wondering if anyone has felt the same and can give me some heartening words or advice. My boyfriend moved in with me 9 years ago and I thought we were quite happy together. We had known each other for 5 years previous to that and were in a relationship. He was just an ordinary guy I thought, hardworking, although at times I felt he was a bit of a liar and exaggerated things.
Then around three years ago, after some suspicions but completely out of the blue, he walked out as he said we had grown apart. Within days after searching on the internet, I found out he had set up a new face book, was involved with two other women. Then after a few weeks up suddenly wanted to return, he told me he was suffering from depression, and even took a few months off on the sick and sat with his feet up, whilst I consoled him, I seriously thought he had a mental breakdown. I was in a spin but because I thought I loved him, that is why allowed him back.
Over the next two years (until February 2018) I tried to make a go of it with him, but the in between time was difficult, after the break up, suddenly his family would no longer speak to me, his two children were as cold as they ever were towards me.
Then I noticed a message on his phone, and when I read it it was from a woman saying how much she loved him, I pretended I was him, I got enough information out of her to realize that it was a long standing affair (and even met up with her). She showed me lots of inappropriate photographs he had taken of himself both in our house and whilst we were away on holiday. I threw him out of the house and cut him off completely, I found out that he had other women too, including the one from three years before.
Since last February, I have plodded on, and have continued to try to build up my life amidst the devastation. Now I have found out he is now living with another new girlfriend and has broadcast it over Facebook that he is to marry her. He left our home with nothing at all and nothing behind him and I just feel really hurt and puzzled that this is the situation now, I know I shouldn't care, but do you really know anyone and, will I ever get over this. I do feel better most of the time,, but then it hits me and I wonder if I will ever feel the same. I still have my adult daughter who is a great support but has her own life, she lives with her boyfriend. I just feel quite lost at times, and wonder why this has happened to me. 