dumps me over text then downloads whatsapp?

[Coldshoulders]

So I have been seeing this guy for like 4 months. On and off. I won't lie he's been abit of a knob with me aswell being hot and cold. Texts me late at night and if I don't reply in time starts being a prick. Finishes with me over text all the time one min it's I have feelings for you but I don't want to get hurt the next it's hi how are you like nothing's happened. Anyways same thing last night was texting me all nicely then it was nasty sulky texts so I just left it, whatever. Today noticed on my whatsapp contacts he's downloaded whatsapp since he started his bitch fit last night. Found this really strange. Think I'm just having a rant tbh but dumps me over fucking text then downloads whatsapp think it's weird? What do you people think appart from the obvious he's a dick and your best off without him haha x

I remember (when I was single) reading about men who text you late at night! I learned that guys who text late at night see you as a booty call! Whereas as text before say 7pm was to be seen as genuine interest!

It might be that he started talking to someone new, who said do you have whats app? I am sorry to say this but it was what crossed my mind when I read your post @Coldshoulders I think your better off though and you should find someone who wants to be cuddled up with you late at night and not texting nice one minute to go all weird the next.

I know your probably annoyed but trust me you won't always feel this way and its probably best you discover he is not worth it now before you invest more time.

Why do you care? Cut him out and start treating yourself better. I'll bet you would expect a friend to put up with this this shit?!

Thank you and I'm actually ok about it tbh I'm glad it's over now and it wasn't me who was the one who finished it as now I don't feel any guilt. He was saying to me he wasn't suppose to feel this way about me and its time we leave it so he doesn't get hurt. He even stood me up on Xmas and that was honestly when I realised fuck this. I just get annoyed to think I have been played even though I can't do anything about it hahaha just wondered if it was weird he downloaded whatsapp after 4 months of seeing him and he didn't have it before but oh well I will never know, just glad I'm rid. Just think I wanted a rant tbh 😂 thanks x

Make the first time anyone treats you like this, the last time.

Block him on all social media.

Thankyou I will make sure i do I only use whatsapp anyway but he's been blocked and number deleted fuck this 😂 x

A lot of bad people act all nicey nice at the start i.e. the honeymoon phase and then show their true bad selves a few months or a year later but if he is already being so mean from the start, it'll only get worse over time - never heard of any story which began like this and ended in a happily ever after 30 year strong relationship lol so yea you're not missing much :)

Fucking whatsapp.
My ex was straight on whatsapp whenever we had the slightest problem.
Chatting up women he'd either recently met or known years ago.
Every fucking time - problem/argument/whatever - straight on whatsapp.

He is a dick - as you say. Get rid. Your life will consist of permanently wondering what the knob is doing on whatsapp.

I do most of my meszaging via whatsapp. Its so easy and great to send photos through. So I use it more than anything else.
If your bf or partner is using it to chat women up it's not wa that's the problem.
Tbh it doesn't sound like you're glad it's over. You still seem quite concerned about what he is doing and who with.
You need to work out why he could treat you the way he has and you still waited around for him to.end it.
We've all allowed someone to treat us poorly but it's what you get from that that matters. It just seems that you have given him all the cards to hold.
Might sound like a cliche but one thing I've learned in the past year is that no one is going to respect you if you don't demand respect.
I hope him blowing you out at Christmas and now acting like a nasty twat is enough to keep him blocked.
Don't give him or his shitty behaviour any more headspace than it deserves.
Chalk it up to experience and raise your bar before you get involved again.

Not really sure what any of him treating you like crap has to do with Wattsapp but yes, you're better of wl rid of him

He’s either downloaded it because he’s talking to someone new, or he wants to be able to monitor you and when you’re online, so he can speculate about whether you’re talking to anyone else.

The whole wasn't supposed to feel like this and dumping you to stop being hurt is a tactic to get you to chase and promise you'll never hurt him and accept what ever crumbs he throws you so can can show you aren't 'that girl'. It's manipulative. Just like blocking you and then opening an avenue for you to do the contact and chasing. If you contact it'll all be on his terms, with him pushing and pulling while you tie yourself in knots to prove your 'love'. Heartbreak, low self esteem and shattered confidence lies thst way. Don't be that girl!